Ehh… wonky sleep.
I put my knockoff oodie on ‘delicates’ but accidentally washed it on 30 degrees instead of cold. Oops. The fleece has popcorned very slightly but a quick brush with the knockoff tangle teezer when it’s dry should fluff it up again.
I also saw my hair is longer than I realised which explains things. I’ve gone back to using a drop of oil through the ends/lengths before washing and that helps a lot. I still haven’t had an opportunity for a cut
Ps: Annoyed about the egg limits/issues as I was going to pass a lot of egg recipes on. Being as they’re a cheap good source of protein, cheaper than meat
I didn’t make it to Fairfield, but I did go to Hawthorn and probably spent a bit more than I expected to - picked up frozen tempeh from Grand Laguna because few places have the proper stuff, splurged on some mapo tofu flavour packets (I don’t use doubanjiang enough to have it in my fridge), got some tofu to use and some to freeze (I hear it has a good texture when frozen and defrosted), bought a bougie Flinders lime, and… most excitingly of all…
…dropped $13.50 on a 30-pack of frozen Osaka Ohsho veggie gyoza from Japan. I cooked up 10 just now, but I have leftover oil in the pan and dipping sauce, so the only right thing to do here is make some more. What a travesty 😩
Sky full of ice crystals - sunset should be fabulous tonight.
Last night was the first night post-solstice I noticed the sunset lasting a little longer. Thank goddess.
I inadvertently listened to most of MSO’s performance Carmina Burrara yesterday live on ABC Classical while doing my taxes and was all “oh it’s THAT doomsday song!” And then all of yesterday arvo and today it’s been bugging me, where did I hear an English language parody of it, was it misheard lyrics, no it was simpler, was it an ad, what ad was it, what ad, was it the UK, was it here…
… and then it finally came to me out of nowhere this evening. I only knew it from Gruen as it aired before I moved to Australia, but the wave of nostalgia over LOTR and the excitement of videos on the internet came flooding back once I watched it and it sent me into a bit of a YouTube rabbit hole. Many of you probably know this one.
Oooooo fortuuunaaaaaaaaa ugh now ima gonna have to dig out my cd of the whole suite
Anti-gratitude thread.
My headlight died. I just changed the bulb a couple of weeks ago.
I am utterly ungrateful for the stupid dangling bits on the seam of my socks that have given me a blister
Well I pretty much already did this, but I’m still annoyed so will do it again. Google nerfed my maps timeline. There’s only 2 reasons I stay in the google ecosystem: 1. Google timeline, and 2. Google photos. But if those donkeys keep breaking everything I like them I’m going to cancel my Google one membership, finally purchase unraid, and build a nice little google free lifestyle where people don’t break everything for no reason. I’m still annoyed about them killing the mobile MyMaps app
This mild stuffed up ears and nose can go in the bin.
Amen.
I broke something even more at work by attempting to fix it. And my headlight also died. The way the car is means I might have to take the whole front panel off to change it.
A friend of mine passed away less than 2 months ago, and now her son has messed up big time (no sympathy, he really screwed up in a stupid unnecessary way) and is going to jail, I’d say for a long time. His boys lost their beloved Nan and now their Dad in less than 2 months and I’m pissed off about it. Also, the oldest of the boys is friends with my boy but I don’t know the mum, so they probably won’t see each other anymore. The kids are nice kids, but their little world has changed so much in such a short time, and I really feel for them.
I put a studio subwoofer (weighs about 50kg) straight into a wall yesterday trying to get it down stairs on a trolley. Such a stupid mistake. I’ve fixed the hole (sort of) but everytime I walk past I just shake my head :(
Punched a wall yesterday removing render and now have a raw knuckle that is all swollen and nonworky. I need that finger to pick my nose, dammit
The day of darkness begins much earlier than wanted. Power goes out shortly. Boo! Overusing heater in the hope warm will hold for a bit, then decamping for mini golf and boiling a ham hock.
Sky pretty
I see a lot of partnered people making some big compromises for various reasons…for the kids, for finances, because they are scared to be “alone”.
At this point in my life with control over my own space and what I do, it would really have to take someone extraordinary to feel as though they were adding to my life rather than me making big sacrifices.
And honestly the thought of trying to date in the hope of that elusive someone feels like a very big gamble with poor odds. If you enjoyed dating and meeting new people, the process even though you don’t win might be bearable, but I don’t really care for it tbh.
@wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work
I’m on the other side of the fence.
Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.
Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that you’re “losing” something.
I’ve noticed it with people I’ve dated that are western. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just different.
But it never sat well with me. Seems a bit transactional…
Admittedly my culture is different, so that’s probably why I don’t mind compromise. In a way, it’s an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.
That said, there are fundamental aspects of who I am that I cannot compromise on. Because if I did, I’d end up resenting the person I’m supposed to love.
/mild rant
Love makes you compromise. Love makes you sacrifice. If you have love for one another those things are easier.
A person who loves you would never ask for compromises on important things like belief, children, vocation. etc
I don’t know. I think there’s room to compromise on everything.
100% agree. Life is full of compromise.
Here’s an example. One person I know has a husband that smokes and has no intention of quitting, and now their children also smoke.
I wouldn’t even get into a relationship with a smoker to begin with because for me that’s a deal breaker. Same with any other substance abuse problem.
I sacrificed a lot for someone who hurt me for over 8 years, in varying ways. I grew up abused and it set me up for abuse later on because I had no idea what was normal. I almost had a kid with the cunt (thank fuck I made my own money and bought a plan b pill).
But I would never let myself do that again. I know so much more now, about people, the world, and right and wrong. I got extremely lucky my one-night-stand turned out to be my person. We’re better together than we are separately. But if I hadn’t of met my current partner, I think I’d still be single after leaving my ex. Dating seems so dangerous now for vagina-owners (what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite).
I’d never change myself ever again for another person. I’d compromise (like quitting smoking), but not on the big things (buying a house, having kids, etc).
what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite)
I don’t know, but it scares and confuses me too
The difficulty level of dating increases with the gay overlay as well, but for different reasons.
If this stage in life is not conducive to a relationship, or is pleasant enough without one, then you’re under no obligation to have one, regardless of the opinions of family and friends. I have a lot of regrets over how little time of my younger life I’ve really lived for me.
Otherwise, I think the important thing is to find someone who wants the same as you, no matter what that is. If you’re a “meet in the middle,” compromising person then it’s important that the person you’re with also has those qualities, or you’ll find you’re always the one having to be flexible, and may end up feeling taken advantage of. If you’re an individualist who wants to have a lot of independence and “room to move” within a relationship, and can’t bear the thought of “living in someone else’s pockets” then it’s vital to live true to that while that’s how your life is. A couple of friends of mine are very career forward people, spend a lot of time separate from each other due to the demands of their careers, but undeniably love and respect each other and aren’t clingy. It’s perfect for them. How do you know how it’s going to be with someone? You don’t always, or you think you know people but then they change, or you find out things you didn’t know. The arrival of children can complicate things that before seemed much simpler and more straightforward.
The thing is, compromise doesn’t always start out as effort. Early on in a relationship (or maybe youth is a factor?) it can feel easy to work with differences. And then over the years as we grow and mature sometimes our wants, needs and habits evolve and set firmer. Our world view can change, our life goals can change. But you might still love the person you’re with so you continue to try and make it work. Sometimes that works out and the relationships stays strong, sometimes it doesn’t. I think if I was starting over again at my age I too would be a lot less flexible in what I wanted in a partner. I know myself better.
The other reason why people might stay in non-perfect relationships is that the way our society works, it’s centred around a couple being the primary relationship unit. So doing things like housing, child rearing, holiday companion, someone to help if you’re sick, someone to chat to if you had a bad day at work, etc, are all often done with a partner. Without a partner it can be hard work to build a network that can fill those roles, or you have to be happy to do it on your own. So yes there’s compromises, but if the partners value the companionship enough they may choose to tolerate the annoyances and personality differences.
I mean what is the difference in your mind between olerating a minor annoyance versus a major compromise?
What are your favourite soups to make? I need a bit of variety.
- Leek and potato
- Pumpkin
- Mulligatawny
- Tomato
- Chicken and whatever
- Sour cherry (in summer when I can find sour cherries)
- Fish & veg
Chicken and corn. Throw some mini dim sims in to make a meal.
Curried pumpkin with red lentils & coconut milk/cream
Ooh yum.
So many good ones listed here! I’ll add cauliflower, leek and potato. I make it with a base mix of stock and milk, then once veg is cooked blitz it up and add a handful of grated cheddar and heat and stir through until it melts in. Sooo good. I like to put plenty of cracked pepper on top when eating.
Pea and Ham. Or probably just pea as I’m working on becoming vegetarian. It’s the toast soldiers and butter that make it for me.
minestrone with meat balls pumpkin tomato
Lamb shank soup.
We watched some old episodes of Ready Steady Wiggle from 10 years ago and the new episodes are so much better. They’re more cohesive and have better pacing.
There are 8 wiggles in the main lineup now, it makes me wonder if there’s a US wiggles branch.
If not, Anthony should take the Trans-Siberian Orchestra approach and have two groups of the wiggles that just tour each coast up and down.
It would make more than enough to set everyone involved with the wiggles up for retirement
Got what from everything I can tell a real email from uber with a verification code to login and I haven’t logged in today. That means that, assuming it was real, someone got my password right.
Aaaand then I spent an hour resetting a bunch of passwords and deleting all passwords from Microsoft and Google (I use an external password manager now).
While digging through privacy and security stuff I did see that someone tries to unsuccessfully login to my Microsoft account every few hours from various countries around the world. I’m guessing that happens to a lot of people whose accounts are old and have been involved in breaches of services you sign up with them with.
Glad I have multifactor authentication setup for all the important stuff.
Is anyone here into modern spirituality stuff? Was supposed to go to this cool thing in Brunswick today, like an expo, but I can’t because of the migraine.
Been really trying to find that community and I’m pretty heartbroken that I can’t go to this expo 😔😔😔
Not my thing but I noticed these events get suggested pretty heavily on Facebook and Eventbrite. If the thing in Brunswick has a Facebook event all the suggested events should be pretty similar.
There are also these witchy markets on semi regularly, but they move around. There might be one on near you soon
Awesome! Appreciate it mate. That’s one of the reasons I want to move back to Brunswick after 30 years away. So much interesting stuff to suss out.
Living here has been amazing, couldn’t recommend it enough tbh.
I miss it so much, but got priced out a long time ago. If this job comes through, I’ll be moving back asap.
My mum is extremely spiritual, I grew up learning how to do tarot readings, which crystals have certain energies, aura readings, palm readings, etc.
I don’t believe any of it, all it did was exacerbate her schizophrenia lol.
There is a crystal shop on Sydney Rd now though, and I bought a small garnet because they’re pretty. My inner magpie loves crystals and stones. If you have a specific crystal in mind, I can have a look for you! Let me know!
I’d like something green to go with my big amethyst and citrine. Just a colour thing.
They have malachite, Moldavite, and serpentine, from memory. Ill pop down this week and see what they have in stock. I guess it depends what kind of green lol
blue carbon cubic
That’s fancy as! I don’t think they have that. Maybe a jewellery shop will. But I’ll check this week anyway; I tend to go for walks along Sydney Road so I’ll check :D
What do you think modern spirituality is? Philosophically, stoicism and buddhism have all the answers I need.
I’ve found a big part of the spirituality community is guru-type guys trying to spirituality their way into young girls pants and a bunch of women burned by said guru-guys. Eg, confest creeps, anyone ever met a guy who goes by Quoll?
I have ZERO time for reiki, tarot, psychics or anything to do with crystal energy. I think it’s nonsense and avoid getting to know “believers”. I’m not interested in debate with someone so off the deep end of reality, I feel they’re akin to flat-earthers.
These days the whole eat healthy food --> crunchy parents --> right-wing nutjob pathway seems very prevalent. Many of my loose bush doof friends have started talking about satanists taking over and the need to protect ourselves from the government. One mate called the whole Trump trail a false flag because Trump was going to reveal the truth about “how it all works”. The anti-government / right-wing view come thick and strong.
I’ve grown up Buddhist but have left the community. I’m fine handling my relationship with the universe on my own terms. There’s no shortage of self-directed study material. I have zero belief in an afterlife.
I have ZERO time for reiki, tarot, psychics or anything to do with crystal energy. I think it’s nonsense and avoid getting to know “believers”. I’m not interested in debate with someone so off the deep end of reality, I feel they’re akin to flat-earthers.
You’d hate my mum hahahah! I do! 😂
As I replied further up the thread, it’s an investigative process. I used to be a part of that community a very long time ago before I chose to throw my life away for about 10 years.
I grew up in a muslim household, and if people knew what went on in those families, they would understand when I say I don’t generally associate with that crowd. Similar to how you feel about Buddhists.
I can’t speak for the predatory behaviour, because back in the early 2000’s it was all bush doofs and lsd. Or maybe I didn’t notice.
I’m surprised to hear that a portion of that community has turned towards the right wing. I hadn’t heard that before. That’s actually fucking insane. Maybe they’re not as anti-racist as I had assumed.
As for the “woo-woo”, I don’t particularly subscribe to much of that, but I am agnostic, and find that crowd at least willing to discuss things around that idea. Can’t say I’ve had any luck finding people into that sort of thing in the circles I’ve travelled the last 8 or so years. I don’t subscribe to Identity Politics, so I’m generally unwelcome in Progressive circles despite being left wing myself.
Appreciate the info though.
I’m surprised to hear that a portion of that community has turned towards the right wing.
I think even they don’t know it themselves. The podcast “Conspirituality” is pretty good at investigating this stuff, from what I hear. I think it’s a distinctly post-Trump thing that went into overdrive with Covid. Distrusting the lockdown and vaccine measures opened up huge swathes to hardcore rightwing communities that were ready to suck them in and provide them with a sense of community in a time of crisis overriding rational thought (which was unfortunately the basis of many hippie groups in the first place tbh).
Not subscribing to identity politics is also a hard one with progressive circles as you mentioned.
Every “scene” has its downside tbh, especially if you have a difficult past and/or are not white. It’s an everyday task to rewire the brain to allow moments of belonging and areas of common ground to sink in, vs the sometimes disproportionate amount of attention given to the moments of not-belonging. Hard to not be hyper vigilant and to trust. Trying to seek a community in that frame of mind is difficult…
I too would love to know what modern spirituality actually consists of. There are plenty of options on offer out there. My problem with what passes for modern ‘spirituality’ is that the people that do it can degenerate into candle-waving idiots very quickly. Ripe for exploitation by influencers and other profiteers. I very much distrust anything that requires me to buy something to be ‘spiritual’. I’m including christianity in this list, and it’s a long one.
I guess the operative word here is community - cos we all need at least one as we are pack/herd animals at a very basic level. Community is worth seeking out but comes in a lot of different flavours and uses a lot of different jargons. I’m all in favour of researching the topic personally, but would encourage you to keep your brain cells engaged while you do so. There will be other events like this expo - there are too many fools out there ready to spend their money on shit.
I was just interested in gaining a better understanding of it myself. I’m aware of the “woo-woo” crunch insanity that proliferates in those circles. I’m agnostic, and the only people who I can find that are of a similar persuasion tend to collect at those sorts of events.
Before the “fall”, that used to be my community. I can’t say I belived everything that was popular in that world, but I enjoyed the open minded-ness of the people I met through it. I ended up engaged to someone from that world.
The “Metal Community” here is pretty fucking racist, despite what some may say. So I don’t do so well there. That’s the only other subculture that I would like to be a part of.
The new age hippies are pretty chill when it comes to race.
As it currently stands, I belong no-where. And I’m capable of sniffing out snake oil salesmen/women.
Sensible. The open mindedness is a major benefit of the alternative mob. Sounds like a plan.
@Gibsonisafluffybutt @Seagoon_ I am vaguely Quaker. Humanistic agnostic and very moderate, but still believe the universe is a mystery. My wife is lapsed catholic and dabbles in psychic and magic practises.
Ahmadi, Sufi, Wahabi, Shiite, Sunni are all denominations of islam I believe. I heard the call to prayer a few times, but even if we’re to revert to Islam, it would be as humanistic agnostic progressive lukewarm sort of Muslim. “Almost Muslim” would be a new denomination I think.
“Almost Muslim”? You can’t be half pregnant mate.
@CEOofmyhouse56 a “Almost Muslim” is an emerging new denomination indeed. I saw an episode of ‘insight’ on SBS where people identified as non-practising Muslim or cultural Muslim. I guess it is to be expected in liberal democracy that moderate and progressive beliefs are tolerated to some extent. The Sydney mardi-gras had a christian float recently. religion can and does change over time. The scientific calender etc.
I’m guessing a cultural Muslim means you pretend to practise for the sake of the family. That doesn’t make you a Muslim. Unless cultural Muslim means something else.
My husband was born a Muslim. He does not practise Islam nor does he identify as Islamic but he respects their beliefs.
@CEOofmyhouse56
I guess the meaning of ‘Cultural Muslim’ depends on your intention. My wifes family are Cultural catholics which I understand to mean they are raised in the culture of catholicism with all its history, language and practise, but they are not church regulars.
Whoopsy fingers slipped and I bought some more art, this time two canvas prints of the following:
https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/1609446726/sage-green-bauhaus-exhibition-poster
I’ll calm down after this and stop buying art for a while.
I was looking at bauhaus art the other day. I reckon I could make a stencil of the face and spray bleach on a black T-shirt to make one. I’d leave out the circle, circles are a drag to make look crispy sharp… unless anyone has a laser cutter. https://99designs-blog.imgix.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/1920px-Bauhaus-Signet.svg.png?auto=format&q=60&fit=max&w=930
I have a cricut, what were you thinking for stencil medium?
No idea tbh, I used to use slip sheeting which is kind of like the black square of plastic that came in the bottom of the original green bags but for warehousing. Being able to use a weak spray glue to stick the fabric to the stencil was best for sharp edges.
I actually have stencil material, but it feels kinda like very thin silicon. Can cut stuff up to and including balsa tho if you want choppy choppy, just sling me the pattern
Alternately i actually have iron on vinyl and fabric pens i can load in the fucker to just draw directly on a tee (works with light colours)
Hmmm. Now I’m wondering if i can 3d print an adapter to fit a bleach pen to the head and draw with that…would probably wick like a mofo though…
There’s a wide variety of refillable graffiti pens. Those folk like to use custom really hard to clean ink.
YOLO
Sunday! It’s quiz time!
45/50 - best ever score due to some lucky guesses.
30/50 oof
Also 30, my guesses were not as lucky.
15/50, ouch. No idea about sports.
30/50. I don’t do well on aussie knowledge
45/50 here too. The UN question got me!
I disagree, it should be a day as that is very important in world history
I heartily endorse your NOMination.
I uhhh… Got 5/50
🥄
I got 10/50. At least the bald bloke thinks I’m good at other things though
35 oof damned sports questions
staple gun has been bought, tapestry patchwork has been made, now to clean up so I can get started on the chairs tomorrow
the fabrics turned out so much nicer than I imagined 😊
