…ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what’s one you’ve given?
I’m thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that’s just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I’ve been told not to brag, but also because I’m extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.
My bonus one (and I’m not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he’d never once failed to have my back. He’d be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I’d walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he’d take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of “courage isn’t not being scared, it’s being willing to face it.” I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I’m not sure I phrased it well at the time.
“You have really hard bones”. By two doctors in different hospitals. At least I took it as a compliment. They may have been complaining.
No way! That’s a mad compliment. Drinkin’ that milk!
Milk doesn’t work, as it seems.
Someone told me that I talk like Christian Slater. I wasn’t sure if that was a compliment or not, but Slater is pretty cool, so I said thank you.
I’ve only ever experienced Slater in Broken Arrow and Archer. Both were good fun. One was decidedly better than the other.
I don’t know enough about the man to offer any in depth analysis, but he seems like a very confident person and apparently that’s attractive. Sounds like a good compliment to me!
“I like your butt hair.”
I had totally forgotten about it until now, but I got that same compliment.
OK, that’s truely weird.
Is it? Some like it hairy.
When I date, I seem to usually end up dating women who enjoy a hairy man.
I was dancing at a club a couple years ago and someone came up to me and yelled without pause “Are you a boy or a girl you’re gorgeous”
that sounds like a fantastic compliment! your beauty is universal 😮😍
The best I’ve ever received! 🥰
“You have the charisma of a garbage man’s cologne”
This guy once told me “Your hair looks small” as a compliment… I still dont’t know what to make of it.
I feel like I would have to see your hair at the time if you happen to be able to find a picture (or a similar one).
It’s an It’s Always Sunny reference!
After some research, this redditor sums the moment up thus: “Dennis is incapable of complimenting him he doesnt have anything nice to say he doesnt respect Mac he doesnt even like Mac Mac just likes him and this is the foundation of their friendship no one likes Dennis everyone knows hes a scumbag psychopath but Mac admires and worships Dennis and values his opinions over anyone else which is how Dennis thinks everyone should see him he tolerates Mac because he keeps him anchored and from going to far or drowning while still validating Dennis’s chaos and faults so he simply states the first thing he notices about Mac in the moment which is that his hair looks small which it does because he greased it different (obviously making an effort to be noticed by Dennis) When Mac realizes hes just saying what he wants to hear and not being genuine he goes to walk away which is why Dennis does the speach to let him know that he is important not because hes badass or how he looks but because hes always has Dennis’s back”
I still don’t understand how this could apply to this person’s situation.
A PTA mom once told me that she’d commit murder for my hair.
Considering the giver that is extremely high praise.
I had many strange encounters with random people as I often look like someone they know from TV or a band. One was on a university dance ball where there was an actual minor music star - young guy. He was getting a lot of attention and I was quite envious. I complained a bit and a bit more but then suddenly random girl approached me and asked: “Can I take a picture with you?” :)
I was told my calves were absolutely shredded by an attractive woman. I’ll carry that to my grave.
Oh some people have some absolute upside-down shelves on their legs. (Dunno about you but) especially fat people. A lot of people don’t realize how much muscle is under there unless they’re big enough to profoundly affect their mobility and that doesn’t usually start happening until around like 350+. There’s a reason Olympic weightlifters don’t look shredded (except them calves). Shredded muscle, especially abs, is almost all for show.
I used to be 300 and now I’m much closer to 200 (under if I’m careful) and I bike a lot. My calves and thighs are chiseled.
You guys are getting compliments?
I like your username. You must be very witty and creative
It took me two days to realize that I got a compliment! Yay :)
Haha and you’re so good at moderating your social media usage! Me I check lemmy way too often
Randomly stopped by a random guy as I was walked off the sky train “uhhh excuse me could you be a model for us?”
Hands me a business card etc. I’m nothin special lol. I’m also a dude.
Models come in all shapes and sizes, you don’t have to be Calvin Klein level to get jobs.
From a French colleague:
“You are the kind of Italian we like in France.”
“Wonderful, but I’m American.”
“I doubt that”
I’ve had something similar quite a few times.
Meet someone, talk for a bit, “where are you from?” u.s. “really? You don’t seem American”
They meant it as a compliment
Is there anywhere in the world where this isn’t a compliment?
A couple years agoI (at the time mid 30s male) was coming back from a movie with my GF at about 11pm waiting for a bus in the UK. Two moderately drunk guys (looked to be about 10 years younger?) were waking down the same sidewalk, and about 2 steps after they passed us, one of them turns around and goes “Mate…”, me and my GF look over and he’s looking me up and down, “… NICE ass!” then fist bumps me and keeps walking.
She was like “what the fuck was that?”
I said “meh, it happens”.
When I perform, the best compliments are the people who have to look away. I think that qualifies as weird. Not JD Vance weird though.
“You have perfect teeth.” I don’t, which is why I find it weird. One is cracked and another is chipped. Two separate women 2 years apart have told me that several times.
Several men have told me I have a great smile. I’m a cis-straight man. One of them was a martial arts instructor that looked like the Rock. He told me this in front of my girlfriend and the whole class. He then pointed it out a few times throughout the weekend-long workshop.
One guy that I had never met came up to me and told me I was a good dancer. He was with his girl.
I’m really confused about the last two.
Beauty doesn’t have to be mainstream perfect. Perhaps your slight teeth imperfections make your smile especially attractive 😉
