…ideally one that was both genuine and that you had the confidence and self awareness to interpret as kind. And for bonus points, what’s one you’ve given?
I’m thinking back to the guy in group therapy years ago who told me he always thought of people who swore as not knowing any better words, but that I obviously knew better words and just also swore and even used them artistically and that’s just really stuck with me. Sometimes I wonder how much of my self esteem has suffered not just because I’ve been told not to brag, but also because I’m extremely weird so the compliments I do receive often reflect that.
My bonus one (and I’m not sure how well he was able to take it) was that one of my fellow psych nurses was frequently and obviously terrified any time shit hit the fan, but that somehow still he’d never once failed to have my back. He’d be stuttering the whole way through an incident but I’d walk out of the med room with both halves of a B52 and he’d take one of the syringes without a second thought. He was literally the epitome of “courage isn’t not being scared, it’s being willing to face it.” I should find a nice presentation of that quote somewhere to send him because I’m not sure I phrased it well at the time.
I had many strange encounters with random people as I often look like someone they know from TV or a band. One was on a university dance ball where there was an actual minor music star - young guy. He was getting a lot of attention and I was quite envious. I complained a bit and a bit more but then suddenly random girl approached me and asked: “Can I take a picture with you?” :)
I was dancing at a club a couple years ago and someone came up to me and yelled without pause “Are you a boy or a girl you’re gorgeous”
that sounds like a fantastic compliment! your beauty is universal 😮😍
The best I’ve ever received! 🥰
“I like your butt hair.”
OK, that’s truely weird.
When I date, I seem to usually end up dating women who enjoy a hairy man.
Is it? Some like it hairy.
I had totally forgotten about it until now, but I got that same compliment.
This guy once told me “Your hair looks small” as a compliment… I still dont’t know what to make of it.
I feel like I would have to see your hair at the time if you happen to be able to find a picture (or a similar one).
It’s an It’s Always Sunny reference!
After some research, this redditor sums the moment up thus: “Dennis is incapable of complimenting him he doesnt have anything nice to say he doesnt respect Mac he doesnt even like Mac Mac just likes him and this is the foundation of their friendship no one likes Dennis everyone knows hes a scumbag psychopath but Mac admires and worships Dennis and values his opinions over anyone else which is how Dennis thinks everyone should see him he tolerates Mac because he keeps him anchored and from going to far or drowning while still validating Dennis’s chaos and faults so he simply states the first thing he notices about Mac in the moment which is that his hair looks small which it does because he greased it different (obviously making an effort to be noticed by Dennis) When Mac realizes hes just saying what he wants to hear and not being genuine he goes to walk away which is why Dennis does the speach to let him know that he is important not because hes badass or how he looks but because hes always has Dennis’s back”
I still don’t understand how this could apply to this person’s situation.
A PTA mom once told me that she’d commit murder for my hair.
Considering the giver that is extremely high praise.
The Miss “my state” came to sing the national anthem for a big sports event at my job. I took care of the sound for her and we chatted a little bit. She was constantly barraged by guys coming up and wanting a picture with her, so we didn’t get to have too much of a conversation. She sang the anthem, and was moving on to her next engagement and I said glad to meet you and was about to go back to the rest of my job. She stopped me and said " but we didn’t get a picture together!" I told her it was ok, I understand that it’s part of her job. She insisted and handed HER phone to someone walking by and insisted they take a picture of us. After they returned her phone she looked me in the eye and asked for my phone number so she could send it to me. I have a wonderful girlfriend and I would never cheat on her, but miss “my state” asked ME for my number, and I have been walking on air ever since.
Not weird, absolutely awesome. Still upvoted because that’s absolutely awesome.
It is pretty weird to assume that everyone needs a picture of her. I look fuckable, take my picture, NOW.
She didn’t think he wanted a picture with her. She wanted a picture to remember him. And possibly as a way to get his phone number. She was crushing a little bit on the cool sound guy.
Super weird! I am NOT the kind of person to get hit on, average on a good day. But thank you!
I’ve been complimented on my voice before, and those aren’t weird compliments. But delivery is important. I had a coworker tell me, “Your voice is great!” And of course I’m thankful. But then deadpan, she goes, “You should do ASMR so I can listen to it.”
Now that was a weird compliment.
ASMR people are a different breed. I’m married to one. The videos feel intensely intimate, but she’ll just listen to them on the couch like it’s the radio.
Meanwhile I get self conscious if someone walks by while I’m watching a video game cutscene lol
If you’re male you could actually probably make a looot of money doing bdsm asmr audio porn. Get an OF and just do a few themed ones as samples / grab-n-go purchases, then offer custom scripts; I bet you’d make bank. Maybe spend about $20 for a couple different women with OF to tell you how they actually masturbate (would help to tell them your use-case so they know you actually want the actual dirty deets) then record yourself ASMR style instructing a woman to do those things. Offer to replace “babygirl” or whatever pet name you decide on with women’s names for $20-50. Easy $$$.
I’m going to preface this with two things…
First, I realize it’ll sound fake. And second, I’m pretty sure she was just trying to stroke my ego, but…
One of my first girlfriends was a little odd. She was smart, well-spoken, witty and knew her way around a clever turn of phrase.
After we had finished having sex for the first time, she fake coughed into her hand, held it up to me and said
“Oh look, my ovaries…”
I don’t get it, is she saying you’re well endowed?
Because this is the internet and you can just say you’re packing a huge hog. No one will really know or care.
I don’t get it, is she saying you’re well endowed?
Yes. Which is why I think she was flattering me. Because I’m really quite average as far as I’m aware. lol.
I believe you because while I am not literally your girlfriend, I am, metaphorically speaking, that girlfriend. I’m also childfree and maybe a dude so I wouldn’t say ovaries but I would definitely describe my clitoral erection and natural lubrication in exquisite detail.
I have a few of those top-tier-in-life compliments that I can never share, but since it’s semi-kosher: “You’re like a sex god,” “You should be a porn star or something,” and “You remind me of Jesus or something,” are among the less-embarrassing ones.
All from the same girl. She was something. It did not end well, surprisingly. Let’s just say I didn’t not call the police on her on my birthday.
Randomly stopped by a random guy as I was walked off the sky train “uhhh excuse me could you be a model for us?”
Hands me a business card etc. I’m nothin special lol. I’m also a dude.
Models come in all shapes and sizes, you don’t have to be Calvin Klein level to get jobs.
From a French colleague:
“You are the kind of Italian we like in France.”
“Wonderful, but I’m American.”
“I doubt that”
I’ve had something similar quite a few times.
Meet someone, talk for a bit, “where are you from?” u.s. “really? You don’t seem American”
They meant it as a compliment
Is there anywhere in the world where this isn’t a compliment?
When I was in undergrad, a new friend in my program asked if he could inspect my elbow. I said sure, and he probed my elbow with his fingers thoroughly for a couple of minutes. He then told me it was very well structured.
“I like your bones.”
“Your art looks like it tastes nice”
“You have perfect teeth.” I don’t, which is why I find it weird. One is cracked and another is chipped. Two separate women 2 years apart have told me that several times.
Several men have told me I have a great smile. I’m a cis-straight man. One of them was a martial arts instructor that looked like the Rock. He told me this in front of my girlfriend and the whole class. He then pointed it out a few times throughout the weekend-long workshop.
One guy that I had never met came up to me and told me I was a good dancer. He was with his girl.
I’m really confused about the last two.
Beauty doesn’t have to be mainstream perfect. Perhaps your slight teeth imperfections make your smile especially attractive 😉
“You have really hard bones”. By two doctors in different hospitals. At least I took it as a compliment. They may have been complaining.
No way! That’s a mad compliment. Drinkin’ that milk!
Milk doesn’t work, as it seems.
I have been complimented on my voice, apparantly I speak quite calmly and clearly.
I love a calm clear voice.
I have a sort of sleepy mumble, which while very calming; not clear at all
