I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.
So I’m going to try and compliment people who:
Have really well done and unique tattoos
Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)
Have super sharp outfits
Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)
what are other good compliments we should give each other?
EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”
I’ve been growing out my beard recently. Similar to women with long hair, maintaining a beard can be a lot of work. Typically, if I see someone else with an epic beard, I try to acknowledge it. Clearly they care about it.
Also, when I see a dad out with a young child alone, if they are trying at all, I will try to acknowledge it. I feel like most dads are in a situation where they are uncertain about what they are doing. Let me know that they are friggin’ nailing it.
Any will do tbh, but when my jokes are appreciated is the best. I love making people laugh.
I honestly don’t like to receive compliments from dudes. Here nobody does that. From a girl is different and has “value” too bad I’m invisible to them but from a dude is just weird.
I think dude shouldn’t feel uptight about this. Tell a guy you like something they do or have shouldn’t be seen as negative. Honestly a small ego boost never hurts.
I told my uber driver the other day that I like his watch, I’m sure he was happy about it.
I think that’s a you issue though. Recently a dude complimented my moustache (I grew it out for a while and put a bunch of effort into making it curly) and that felt awesome.
How’s that a me issue? I’m not the one complimenting guys. The only right compliment from a man that feels right is from your father.
I think it’s a you issue because you think giving compliments from man to man is weird. What exactly is your issue with it? Are you afraid it makes you look gay or something? For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good? Feeling seen is a human need I think, it gives a sense of belonging.
For example, if I’m wearing a shirt of a band I like, and another dude compliments it, why would that not make me feel good?
I’d say it depends on how you compliment it exactly. If you say “That’s a nice shirt”, that’s basically saying you have good taste. I see no issue with that.
But if you’d say “You look nice in that shirt”, that would be weird and I’d assume you’re coming on to me.
Ok not but that’s different. The guy is complimenting “the shirt or the band that appeals to him” not you.
I know, that was the difference I wanted to highlight because it wasn’t clear in the previous comment.
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What you say is also a key point to understanding where the borderline is for sexual harassment or other types of unwanted behaviours in the workplace.
This is often confusing for some people who often ask: “Why can’t I say this and what’s up with everyone being offended over compliments?”, etc.
Simply put: It’s perfectly fine to say “nice jeans”, but it is not okay to say “your butt looks great in those jeans”.
It might be fine for other private occasions, but in a professional working environment we shouldn’t judge each other by personal appearance or sexuality.
But why is it weird? As long as whoever compliments you like that doesn’t try to kiss you, what’s the issue? Maybe the shirt suits you well and highlights something nice about your physique? As long as the compliment ia genuine, why do you assume whoever compliments you is trying to get in your pants? Is that the only reason you give compliments like that?
Honestly I struggle with flirting so maybe I’m getting something wrong here. Maybe people really generally only compliment like that when they’re trying to suggest sexual interest.
That’s the problem. Males usually only do compliments here in sexual interest. Don’t deny it. I don’t want any of it from a dude. I welcome it from a girl. I’m a male.
Honestly, based on your comments here I’d say that this is a you problem by proxy; I’d bet that it’s your dad that’s done you such a disservice raising you that you now reject compliments from 50% of the population of earth. That’s a problem for you.
On the sexual side, if you can’t see any positive in another man showing you any sort of attention in that way, that’s a problem. Its not gay to receive a compliment, man. Just say thanks and move on with your day. EZ PZ.
I mean, I’m able to see beauty in men, even though I am not sexually attracted to them. Not sure why that would be a problem. Also male here.
It’s not a big issue. It would just feel weird, I can’t give you a reason.
To me it seems there is some homophobia lingering there.
If it was coming from a gay guy, that would acually make it better. At least then you understand the motivation for commenting on another guy’s looks.
Hmm, fair enough.
I removed that sentence because I realized it was a bit assumptious. But honestly I don’t understand why it would be better from a gay person. That would make me personally more uncomfortable, because it would feel like an advance that I would not be able to retort. If it would come from someone I assume ia straight, I would just take it as a compliment. Like, I can see how other men are beautiful/handsome, even though I have no sexual interest.
A simple “Hey! Good work today!” with a thumbs up is really all it takes from a random passerby or coworker.
I like when other men compliment my penis.
Just a causal ’Nice dick bro’ when I’m wearing my nice gray sweats.
I try do that at the urinals. Followed by offering a helping hand for the final shake
You’re a true gentleman.
I used to be a dude years ago, so I hope you’ll still accept a “nice dick, bro!”
I used to be a dude too.
Stil am, but I used to be as well.
Mitch is violently turning in his grave right now and I want to scream.
I think he’d be laughing if he wasn’t so decomposed.
I thought you blocked me!
Dude, the grey sweatpants drive me crazy. Can’t keep my eyes off you when you wear those.
Tell me my nipples are a normal size.
Your nips are both especially manly and normal sized, I’m suitably impressed!
Not overly, mind you. Just suitably
“I’m so jealous of your bottomless cash flow”
I’m super jealous of your bottomless cash flow, mine’s pretty much only topless
With a name like “toomanypancakes” I was expecting you to have a muffin top.
I’m usually pretty happy to be recognized for my extreme dexterity.
Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity
There can be too many pancakes?
Nonono, I spin a puppyhammer while doing the Melbourne shuffle!
Last weekend I saw a dude juggling and riding a little cruiser skateboard though!
To answer honestly, probably that someone enjoys having me around
That would do wonders for my repressed lack of self esteem, and certainty that everyone hates me
I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.
That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.
Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.
I’m going to add, “Great hair!” And, “Those glasses really suit you!”
I’m always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say “cool shirt!” out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊
Shirts that go hard
My bro changes literally anything, they get a “Nice, bro.”
My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.
This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.
“That’s an interesting thought!”
“This (thing I worked on) looks great!”
“I respect the choices you’re making here.”
As a father, I’d like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.
Good one. My kids are teens, so I’m always happy to hear anything about how well they grew up
Your kids are really nice human beings. You did well raising them!
Hey - very much feel this one.
It will likely come from your kids in the future, the validation doesn’t come from society. They get to a point where they recognise what you did and say thanks.
You’re doing well, keep it up mate.
