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Cake day: July 17th, 2024

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  • I think in general people gawking at one another is not only training us to react to things that challenge us with bullying (mockery) but equally it doesn’t help us grow as a people. I hate racist, I don’t benefit a damn thing from hanging with racists. But I will also say that racism is there. I am not going to pretend it’s not. And I will also say that by thinking/talking/etc. feeding the media machine and filling it with someone’s name you basically increase the chatter about them. Which I suppose you can see right now.

    But that all together I would love the face of the internet to change because I think we’re too prone to low-level jeering. And I think we can do better as a people. Which I would say is why I have never been on 4Chan and was very happy to leave Reddit. Because people who communicate like that in real life a fucking assholes. And I don’t really want to be a part of that. Putting someone down, to pick myself up.





  • Yes, my partner watches shows on her phone too. It has to be something she knows like the back of her hand but she still likes. To be honest it’s pretty much Futurama or American Dad and she plays it with the filters on and set down a bit so it doesn’t bug me (too much). I still don’t like having tv on personally in the house. I also have a Sony alarm clock that everyone hates for being “too dark” but it’s the only led I allow in my bedroom. Everything else is painted over with acrylic, turned off or taped over. It keeps things from distracting me. If you don’t like sleeping in the dark - find what you do like sleeping in. They sell multi-colored lights you can find your own rhythm and if you’re interested in a partner(s) down the line (or have one currently) there’s surely either something a) you both/all can agree on or b) will find that magical glass slipper of a person who likes the same sleep setup as you =P!


  • If you let any electronics come into your bed and you are attempting to sleep, you’ve already lost. But if you read on your devices try to turn off everything you plausibly can in order to setup an environment conducive to reading. You could also grab an ereader and load it up with a couple of books (not too many, you’ll get overwhelmed) and take them down bit by bit. Put on some soft music with a timer if you need some noise. Or get used to the silence, which I don’t think I was super into when I was younger but for sure got easier and more desirable as I got older.

    Put your phone across the room on a charger if you can - because it’ll not only help with falling asleep but also waking up. Because you gotta drag your ass outta bed to get it. If you live somewhere terribly cold leave your clothes under your sheets with your phone at the base of the bed. Try and keep them folded up so they don’t look like smashed up shit.

    My partner sleeps with tv on every night, but she watches it on her phone so everyone’s got their something. In extreme measures (when I am trying to force a habit) I have all my electronics shut down at a set time. But I am pretty okay with myself right now. Just figured I’d share what works. But you gotta find your own rhythm.

    One last thing is - if you get medicated you pass out like the dead all night. At least in my case. So you know, find what works.

    p.s. - WORKOUT! Do eet! Get yourself as tired as a sleepy dog.

    p.p.s. - Washi paper =)!



  • Idk bullshit peddler, I can’t get with you on this one. Because I think at the end of the day - anything will be seen as “up for grabs” and illustrators will be on the outs like loomers. And while I am somewhat okay with the idea of rug makers (among other loomable items) being antiquated - creativity should not be because it’s the pulse of human expression for many and if we lessen it/deny it - I think the whole world will begin to taste like corn-flakes.

    I saw this growing up in a way, they took our arts program and nobody really found any way to express themselves and at the end of the day where I grew up very few people ever amounted to much of anything =/! I think expression is needed, and must be safeguarded because you need to feel safe to express and must know that it’s a worthwhile venue to venture into. But this is all kinda arm flapping. You can’t stop the future and clearly AI is here to stay - so now we’ve got to work around what we can.

    But, by the by - I still love the bs you’re putting down =)


  • ++ I get so bummed out that people who are running models are unabashedly stealing from people left and right and then shrugging their shoulders for their unethical practices. Perhaps pay people for their catalogues at an agreed upon rate or be a disgusting pig and buy from their estate after death. But don’t just come out here and train your models on everything as if it were a free for all and as if creativity amounted to nothing more than fodder for unabashed capitalism =/!



  • Gay men always sang in a straight way, hinted in a straight way did all sorts of stuff in a straight way because it’s what sells, it was what was expected and it was what was normal. Have you seen a gay man’s ass? They’re far more fantastic than any woman’s. They just do it right =P! Mind you, I’m a dyke, so this is me speaking out of love. But a simple place to point would be Labi Siffre. Who is also from the same time period and area abouts. He sang about women all the damn time, but that man had two partners he loved very dearly and neither were as such. While I can’t point one way or another I will say not only was it a different time but even within the gay scene it was a different culture. People did what they needed to do, or thought they should do - in order to cope. And for sure when I came out I was still rolling through waves of it too. It’s why I am glad queers nowadays (not as a whole but more so than ever before) can just be big old fagolas and what have you. But there’s still more work to be done. I haven’t really been a part of THE CULTURE for a min, so it’s all kinda foggy. But I will say in general, for sure I have seen some real “cover-up” stories for people just trying to do what’s right. But either way you’re entitled to your opinion and I am entitled to mine. I don’t really give a ploop about Freddie Mercury as a whole other than that man could sing. Cause he could. S’all.


  • It was a different time and she was more than likely a wig. Which pending I have my slang right (I’m thinking older school gay stuff where men used to marry women for society and then fuck around with men outside of the marriage) means she is a marriage of convenience. But really as far as I know she was basically his hag, and he loved her deeply. Gay remorse stuff - but sometimes people get tired of being “weird and different” and wish they could just be “normal” and things could just “work they way they were ‘supposed’ to work”. And yeah, he could have been wickedly bisexual. And bisexuals - you have every right to exist (and I think there’s more of you than are accounted for. But honestly, it used to be a constant back in the day and I have met a handful of actual wigs who love their gay ass husbands but understand that theirs are a marriage of convenience. At least, the majority of them do.





  • Yeah shoes were optional for a solid chunk of change of my lifetime and I used to have some real rough feet and damn do I miss them =P! How do you do nowadays? I am still pretty minimalist. I like the heel of my shoes to be as thin as I can take them. But hiking, when I use those minimalist shoes I keep torturing myself my poking a fat rock right into a nerve that sends pain rushing up my being =P! I don’t think I’ll ever have it like I used to.