I’m 34 and yeah I’m still living with my mother, share the room with my uncle, her brother (he lives with us).

I don’t have a job right now but even when I HAD a full time job I didn’t had intention of moving, I don’t have a partner to share the bills and living alone could fuck completely my life and not just partially.

If you think that’s weird I have 3 uncles, in their late 50 still living with my grandma in their big house. Only 1 of them are married and the other 2 never had a gf. All that part of the family is living there.

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    I think it depends on circumstances. Some people are genuine neckbeard NEETs who need to stop being a drain on society. Some people are just jobsearching or in education and aren’t assholes to everyone they live with.

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      Yeah if you’re a functional member of society, then I don’t at all get the stigma. It’s the NEETs that should be getting a bad rap.

      I’ve got my own place, but I’ve asked my mom to come live with me before. She doesn’t want to lol (for various reasons, but we have a really good relationship), but I definitely would feel super comfortable doing so if the circumstances called for it!

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          Unless you have a severe illness you’re receiving government benefits for, NEETs are generally in the position through their own fault because they are lazy

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    Not currently, but I might temporarily move back with family as my lease is ending soon, and I want to save money for a house or condo. I also would rather not sign a lease on a small place, and be stuck with a tiny 1bd studio apartment when my fiancé moves in with me. But I also don’t want to throw a ton of cash away on a 2bd unnecessary.

    I wish rent wasn’t so insane. I blame most of the companies now using algorithmic rent to control vast swaths of housing here.

    Once I switch jobs and really know where my new career is taking me, I can really start looking at the housing market. Praying for a good housing crash, or a dip that causes Black Rock and the other investment firms to panic sell all their real estate ❤️

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    Not still, but again. Moved back when Covid hit and my company started to allow working from home. Honestly, I prefer it. Lived in a tiny city apartment, now I live in a large house in a village, with a garden and lots of nature around. The house would be too large and expensive for my mom to live there alone, so it makes sense for both of us.

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      That’s where I’m at. I moved back home after my divorce about 8 years ago and it’s been really nice. My mom and I have always been really close, and it’s nice to spend more time together as we get older. I’d rather pay rent to her and help with the bills than pay a landlord, too.

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    Moved in with the in laws to help them out as they are getting older, not for financial reasons. Took some adjustment aince it is kind of like being back in an apartment likenwhen we were first married but at least I know the ‘neighbors’.

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    Personally, I’ve always hated this notion of a nuclear family, and that there is some standard that people must go by, lest you be weird or lesser of a person. The more that times goes on, and the economy is the way it is, the more I feel justified in my thinking.

    I lived with my folks into my late 20s. I only moved out because I went on a date with a girl, and never left. She never said anything, so I kept going back to her place. It just sort of happened. If I hadn’t met her, I don’t know when I’d have moved out of my parent’s house.

    If your mother is okay with it, why the hell not? She probably enjoys the company. I currently live alone, except the weeks I have my kids, and while I do enjoy time to myself, I look forward to having my boys around. I’ve told my sons that no matter how old they are, or what happens in their life, they will always have a home with me. My youngest (9) states he is never moving out, and he’s not one to joke about that. 😅

    I say, if it works for you and your family, do it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and fuck off to anybody who says otherwise.

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      Concur. Hate the nuclear family idea. And no worries about still living with your family OP. Most people do and if it works, it works. I live with my husband and moved out at 24 but have many friends that havent and we are in our 30s now. Hope you do find a job sometime though! I believe for most people jobs provide more sense of security and more financial wiggle room.

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      She doesn’t. My younger brother already had a daughter with his first gf and moved with his fiance and together had bought a big house. But what I’m supposed to do…

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    Yeah, I’m. For multiple reasons;

    • In Arabian culture, one doesn’t leave until marriage.
    • I’m still in university (almost finished tho).
    • Parents have health problems therefore, I’ll stay longer to take care for them.
    • House prices are insanely high (both renting and purchasing).

    I’m living in Europe though but my dad is from a Arabian country and well, culture stayed with him. Anyway, I’d help a lot at home. Household things, helping with groceries, medication and such.

    That said, I don’t care what anyone says about still living at home and not on my own. There will be always a chance to get an apartment but people often forget; parents won’t be here forever. One day they’ll pass away. Never forget that.

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      I met a Pakistani dude at my former job, very good worker but almost as miserable as I was, he quit the job because he had an arranged marriage back in his country… Not sure if I can call it lucky but I guess is not my business

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    I’m almost 40. More than a decade ago I used to live on my own, then decided to move back with my mum. It was better for both - splitting expenses, keeping her company, splitting tasks, so goes on.

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    I live with my sister and her husband. We have a decent size house with a yard that neither of us would be able to afford alone.

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    I live in a high cost of living area and I was just telling my coworker, who lives in another state, that I know several people my age (mid-40s) who either still live with their parents or who live with several roommates of the same age, and I don’t blame them a bit because it’s fucking insane out there, dude, and only getting worse.

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    39 and live with my dad because I can only ever get jobs that pay minimum fucking wage and no matter how long I stay somewhere, I never get a raise. When he dies, I’ll end up working 60 hours a week to still be fucking homeless. This country is fucking shit.

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    Yes. Again. We are multigenerational household, 84,49,11. I work full time (I’m the middle) and I can invest in my kid, not rent.

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    Yeah, I was going to move now that I have a steady job but now we just got the news that my dad’s condition is worsening, and, since it’s just my parents and me, I’m gonna stay to help. Thank goodness for remote work.

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    From the content of this thread, I’m betting there’s a lot of selection bias going on. The ones who don’t scroll past. The ones who do post.

    And I’ll follow that pattern. I still live with my mother. Never moved out. Live in the same house I was raised in. But my mother was never really financially stable. My grandmother with whom my mother and I lived… well, she managed to keep us housed and fed with credit card debt, which honestly worked out very well.

    Anyway, I was kindof the only person who really made much of an income in my household and have been financially supporting my parents for decades now. (Though my grandmother passed on a few years back and left me a life insurance policy.)

    I’m 37 now.