Lemmy. I occasionally peek into a reddit sub I used to mod. It was for a hobby that was traditionally male dominated but cracking open more for women. A year before all the API shit went down, women would often get reasonable, responsible answers to their questions about safety. Now, those same questions are met with “get a gun”, “if you’re scared, you have no business in this hobby so stay home and make your husband a sandwich” type shit. And because myself and the other decent mods peaced out, those sorts of comments stay. Women and not-sexist men started peacing out of the sub. And now it’s a mud wallow of small-minded men who are terrified that their manly man hobby can be done by women. It’s a great representative of my total experience as a woman on reddit.

I see some terrible, hateful men on Lemmy but they are far fewer and they almost always get called out by others.