Lemmy, overall. There are things I miss from Reddit but whenever I browse it now it’s just so full of advertising.
Lemmy is better, but the communities I care the most about and want to give the most to aren’t on lemmy, so I don’t really have the luxury of using it quite as much as I’d like. I do like it here, though
Lemmy for sure, I love this place so much!
Lemmy. I occasionally peek into a reddit sub I used to mod. It was for a hobby that was traditionally male dominated but cracking open more for women. A year before all the API shit went down, women would often get reasonable, responsible answers to their questions about safety. Now, those same questions are met with “get a gun”, “if you’re scared, you have no business in this hobby so stay home and make your husband a sandwich” type shit. And because myself and the other decent mods peaced out, those sorts of comments stay. Women and not-sexist men started peacing out of the sub. And now it’s a mud wallow of small-minded men who are terrified that their manly man hobby can be done by women. It’s a great representative of my total experience as a woman on reddit.
I see some terrible, hateful men on Lemmy but they are far fewer and they almost always get called out by others.
If you have the bandwidth, please try to bring the sub to lemmy. We’re lacking a lot of niche interest communities here.
Most of the time, lemmy.
Obviously, the difficulty with very niche communities not being useful here can be annoying.
And, being real, the lack of robust moderation tools makes moderating a pain in the ass.
But, overall, I find the people on lemmy less prone to bad behavior, and the discussions more rewarding. That makes up for the underlying missing functional things worth it.
Reddit, even before they went full asshole as a company, had the major problem of being big. Humans are assholes for the most part. The more people you have, and the lower the bar for entry, the more of those assholes are going to be a problem.
Lemmy has assholes too. The usual knee jerk reactionaries, trolls, and that sort of thing. But the very minor extra effort of having to pick an instance reduces how many of the brain dead assholes will put in the effort. The assholes are a better quality of asshole lol.
But damn, there were some long established communities on reddit that simply can’t be reproduced here because you can’t make old communities. There are a ton of subs that had been around since subs came around. You can’t duplicate that kind of organic growth. There’s very few C/s on lemmy that have a real sense of community yet. I think it’ll happen, but it hasn’t had time for a lot of real cultures to spring up the way reddit had.
I miss the hell out of those long established neighborhoods.
We cannot make old communities, but the second best time to plant a tree is today. That’s why I’m here, commenting and posting.
I love your comment: “The second best time to plant a tree is today”. Not sure if it’s a quote you’ve reused but, from here on in, I’m using it.
I believe it’s an ancient proverb. Nothing is truly original, but it applies to many areas such as self improvement.
Reminds me of another: societies grow great when old men plant seeds for trees whose shade they know they’ll never enjoy.
I haven’t looked back. fuck reddit. fuck spez. fuck their whole puke filled world that was built on the backs of nice internet people that they turned into a profit rearing meatlocker of piss and complaints, still peppered with shitty, out of date memes.
Once I started using Lemmy I never touched Reddit again. So I guess Lemmy.
Lemmy by fucking MILES.
- no ads
- no enshittificafion
- federated ecosystem
- OSS
- self-hostable
- no aggregate karma (so karma farming/selling is completely meaningless)
- userbase genuinely feels a lot less dumb
- loads of other things that I’m forgetting/too lazy to fully enumerate right now
They IP banned me. So they can suck my 8 inches.
Lemmy. Federation and the lack of a profit motive makes it much better.
I would also rather be surrounded by leftist vs liberal drama, rather than liberal vs fascist drama.
The latter is actually a good point. I had almost forgotten how constant and combative reddit was at times with the far-right peeps and incels and whatnot. At the time it had become so normal, one didn’t even think about it. Maybe offer alternative ideas (= argue) a while or just ignore, but now that you mention it, I don’t think there has been many situations like that here, for me at least. Not to say that the enlightened centrists aren’t very much the same in practice, and those I face here every now and then. They just aren’t nearly as bad in substance.
General usage, Lemmy
Technical usage, Reddit.
Same. I have trade and niche hobby interests that don’t have critical mass here.
Conversations are better here tho
Are you serious? We’re on Lemmy.Definitely Reddit.
Consider that I’m free to use either of these, and that we are having this conversation here, on Lemmy.
Nevertheless, the thread has been interesting.
Prefer Reddit’s volume of posts. Prefer lemmy in general. Disappointed that lemmy resembles reddit way too much.
Expand on this if you don’t mind. In what way does Lemmy disappoint you in how it resembles Reddit?
- “/s”
- “SLAMS!”
- “Neckbeard” or “fedora” etc. Grow the fuck up.
- Groupthink.
- Low-effort shitposts.
- Obvious propaganda.
- Arbitrary removal of comments.
- Copious white knight bullshit.
- Downvotes for facts that go against the zeitgeist.
Just off the top of my head.
- performative pearl-clutching level seems higher on Lemmy
Can I ask why you dislike /s?
Because it’s unnecessary and ruins sarcasm. If people are offended because they mistake a comment’s intent, that’s not my concern. I cannot relate to those who need intent spoon-fed to them. It invites lazy, light thinking.
It’s really a nice feeling when strangers on the internet can read your comment and get what you’d written in the right context - even if that context is an obscure in-joke. But there are a lot of people on the internet and a lot of real assholes that might non-sarcastically say whatever crazy thing you’re joking at…
Especially when it comes to neuro-divergent folks, I think the /s is quite helpful. People want to be in on your joke. It’s fun to connect with humor on the internet… and omitting a /s makes it extremely unlikely that some folks, especially those on the autism spectrum, will be able to share that moment with you… instead, it’s more likely to be read as an attack or at least yet another disappointing failure of humanity and compassion playing out over the web.
So if people don’t seem to get your joke when you omit the /s, please do realize that you’ve made your speech less accessible and some people are getting offended by your speech and it isn’t their fault - it’s yours. That said, if you enjoy having more arcane jokes and occasionally being downvoted into oblivion, then nobody is going to force you to /s.
If you’re explaining every single joke in the same sentence as the joke (which is what /s is), it’s not funny. Humour is not, nor has it ever been, about inclusion. It is about being funny. Not universally funny; just funny to people who understand and appreciate the joke.
i find that people who cry about this-or-that is destroying humor or whatever, are pretty much universally bad at being funny. maybe up your game and stop blaming punctuation.
After almost a year of being Reddit free, I have been peeking back in there lately. It just doesn’t hit the same but I do lurk in some subs just because of the volume of content.
I do enjoy Lemmy though. I don’t feel as intimidated to make comments and like to feel we’re building something from the grass roots here.
Same for me. There are some interests I have (mostly niche games) that just don’t have the population to have any sort of traction here. I don’t comment or vote there anymore, and I’m only still logged in on my main PCs because I didn’t bother logging out. Deleted all my old comments and posts.
