Oh! You don’t mean that kind of dark room!
Instant destruction of photos
“trying to remember why I came in here and the light makes it hard to remember”
Thanks to this post I now identify as a lost bat. I consider it a marked improvement.
Showers in the dark are underrated.
I can’t see without my glasses anyway, why bother with lights?
My eyesight is so bad I have to shower with my glasses on. I’ve astigmatism in one eye and I’m really short sighted. My mother who was blind in one eye and had short sightedness was actually able to see better than me.
I often just forgot to turn it on, to be perfectly fair.
You’re not forgetful…You’re efficient, don’t have to worry about turning it off.
If there was nothing compelling you to turn it on, what exactly were you forgetting about? Surely you remembered how to do it, but were you presented a reason to do it by the situation you were in?
I forget every time how annoyingly bright my monitor can be if it’s too dark in the room. I can’t be arsed to change the monitor settings every time. And getting up to avoid a headache is such a future me problem.
Not related to ADHD but similar none the less. I’m eating some leftovers (literally fork in mouth) and my mom asks me if I want to heat it up. I said if I wanted it heated up i’vd have put it in the microwave. I’m 37.
Also when I go to move the vent, “you can turn the fan down if you’d like” - said while turning the fan down. And now I’m too hot…
I hate eating cold leftovers. I hate the texture and I hate the temperature of the food. I haven’t been diagnosed with autism though tests were inconclusive when I tested for Asperger’s as a kid but I have traits of autism and I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a sensory issue.
Have to never had cold pizza leftovers for breakfast after a night of drinking?
I used to love them. These days I pop that shit in the toaster
Eww. Lol
I’ve never liked cold pizza. Just eww.
But I understand why one would eat it after a night out. Sometimes you just can’t be bothered, and it’s edible.
Moms never stop. I loved living with my mom, but it does mean that I have certain mom-related annoyances in my life. She is constantly trying to get me to eat more and leaves all the lights on everywhere. But, there’s advantages too. For example: I love my mom.
I used to get that question a lot when I was a kid. I always politely said “no thanks”.
It turns out my face always said “Are you fucking stupid? I understand how to heat things” while I was trying to be a little polite. I found this out when I visited my parents recently and found out that, while I’m still trying to be polite, my face still tells my mom that I’m capable of deciding on the temperature of my food.
My face says things that I don’t mean to say even when I’m trying not to be an ass.
So they went to the trouble to point out what your reaction looks like, but they have not once in x decades reconsidered the strategy of asking you annoying questions.
My mom is super loving and well meaning. She just has a “not the way I want it” problem.
Ahh the ol’ parental, “I’m cold, so you need to put in a jumper!”
People that ask annoying questions never do.
My face is the same. I remember someone trying to start an argument with me because my face apparently didn’t match what I had said. I was incredibly confused because no one had ever pointed it out to me before so he was telling me about my facial expression and I was disagreeing because I had no idea.
when I’m trying not to be an ass
You mean she’s still asking? It might not be you who needs to try not to be an ass.
She’s a mother. That’s what mothers do. They don’t see their babies as fully grown men / women, they remember the tiny kid that she could hold with one hand when stirring soup with the other. If you weren’t a 100kg, 185cm chunk of flesh she would still be doing it if she could. Asking about the food temperature, if it’s good, is part of it, even if you’ve eaten the same favourite meal for 20 years straight and it is perfect every time. Asking if you want a sandwich, or if she should make a simple meal is too. It’s not that you can’t, or you are too grown up to need someone to make you a sandwich. It simply is their way of showing that they care about you.
And I am saying this as a guy who still gets told that colder food upsets the stomach, being asked if I need any food in a house literally stocked to the ceilling in the kitchen. Being upset about such a tiny thing is really narcisistic.
Thank you for putting it in perspective! I have a very similar mother, and it tends to drive me absolutely mental whenever I visit - but next time I’m home I’m going to remember what you wrote.
Ok, but don’t forget to brush your teeth.
And floss
The dark means I don’t have things to do
This has the same energy as:
- “Who are you?”
- “Who? Who is but the form following the function of what and what I am is a man in a mask.”
- “Well I can see that.”
- “Of course you can, I’m not questioning your powers of observation, I’m merely remarking upon the paradox of asking a masked man who he is.”
It’s been too long since I saw V for Vendetta apparently. It definitely sounded like V but I had no memory of that line until I looked it up.
V was absolutely on the spectrum…
The hyperfixations were real. Verily, his vichyssoise of verbiage would’ve taken about as much prep work as any of his actual plots.
I’ve never actually watched it, but it’s been on my list for years and years.
It’s a good watch. Watch it in the dark.
But I must know!
(Edit: yes, I’m mixing quotes from different movies, it just seemed like it fit)
once a parent always a parent
Every time I get to work first and I’m working in the dark this happens.
Like it’s not really that dark we have massive windows letting in sunlight. I don’t need the light on.
“We are not bats” lol. But yeah this is so true it hurts.
I actually just didn’t notice it get dark tbh
Fuck people who turn on the light, they give me a headache and burning eyes
Fuck the Big Light™
For real. I get migraines and one or my big triggers is lights being too bright. With good old Sol being the worst offender. Luckily everyone else in my house is some flavor of autistic/ADHD so pretty much everyone agrees.
Fuck the Big Light™
Indirect lighting or bust
For me it’s the damn LED lights. I heard how they work is basically by constantly turning on and off and on and off at a speed imperceptible to us, but the end effect is that they are basically strobe lights. So those of us susceptible to strobe lights can get migraines if exposed to them for too long in one sitting.
It’s a quality issue too, the cheaper the LEDs, the worse they seem to affect me. The street lights in new housing estates seem to be some of the worst offenders.
That’s what I’ve heard, yeah. I bought this lightpad thing on Amazon for tracing, and after using it maybe 30 mins or so I felt SUPER off the rest of the day, it was awful. Pretty sure that thing has the shittiest quality LED nodes available.
I believe that’s fluorescent, not LED. I consider fluorescent lights to essentially be the devil.
I’ve heard it’s actually both! Which sucks, like I love the efficiency aspect of LEDs, but some of them really are not built well…
Only poorly made leds.
Am I the only one would prefers the place to be very very bright (not white light, but lots of warm lights)? At least when I want to be awake… night time needs to be super dark for sleeping and being restful, the morning needs brightness to get me up or I feel in a funk. It may also be exacerbated from the ‘comedown’ of my meds, but if I had electric blinds again or if I could have someone open my curtains for me in the morning to get me up, I would definitely do it.
Sometimes I like it to be light and sometimes I like it to be dark.
Yeah. I’m the neurodivergent person who usually turns on the light when they come into work. All my coworkers seem to enjoy dwelling in darkness (and cONsErVe eNErGy) but I apologize in case I’m waking anyone up and flip that switch anyway. We get a lot of visitors and the place shouldn’t look like a frigging bat cave. Plus, I need the energy that the light gives me, like you said.
We get a lot of visitors and the place shouldn’t look like a frigging bat cave.
A genuine laugh here, that’s me, too. The energy saved is minimal.
I’m the same. I hate dark rooms, they make me sleepy and downbeat. I prefer natural light, but any light is better than sitting in a dark room. I also prefer to sleep in a room that’s not totally dark and have no issues with sleeping in a moderately light room. I don’t like pitch black darkness, makes me feel uneasy.
We (aspies) tend towards binaries. We like it either very dark, or fully lit up. We either need silence, or lots of loud noise.
I know I have mental issues with “shades of grey” thinking, and it seems to be common. My personal work around is closer to newspaper print, a mix of completely black and completely white that approximates grey. It tends to annoy a lot of people, I dissect things a lot more than (apparently) necessary.
Full of sunlight, yes. Light bulbs…nah
this, a lot of places have TERRIBLE lighting, if they had proper modern LED bulbs with good CRI that replicate sunlight i would actually enjoy them.
Even better if they have giant panels that literally look like sunlight shining through a window, like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bqBsHSwPgw
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No shit, but that is not a neurodivergent issue. If I’m viving in a given lighting and someone changes the lighting without proper warning I’m gonna get pissed.
As always, this is a boundaries, respect and communication issue.
