• slacktoid@lemmy.mlEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Plot twist: they are into that and see that as a yes

    (that as in what they are doing to repeal the middle aged man)

  • fprawn@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Middle aged men today? They’re millennials and that’s called a 1000 yard stare.

    You’ll understand soon.

  • ZephrC@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    Jokes on you then. I’m probably staring because I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with that eye makeup, and I have no idea what that face is supposed to mean.

    • blindsight@beehaw.org
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      3 months ago

      “She’s asking to be objectified.”

      No, she’s not. And this sexist argument needs to stop.

      • 5in1k@lemm.ee
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        3 months ago

        Sexist to notice someone with bright unnatural hair and heavy near clown makeup, sure. She’s keeping such a low profile, I can’t believe she would be looked at.

        • Fenrisulfir@lemmy.ca
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          3 months ago

          I agree it’s attention getting but that’s nowhere near the same as “asking to be objectified.” That’s fucked you think they’re the same

      • 5in1k@lemm.ee
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        3 months ago

        Who said I didn’t like it? I just think it’s silly to draw attention to yourself then not want that attention.

    • RageAgainstTheRich@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      So if people dress a certain way its okay to stare like a weirdo? The post isn’t about just looking at someone. Its old creeps staring at young girls. There is a difference.

      • ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
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        3 months ago

        Weirdoing begets weirdoing. All sexuality and age stuff aside, she is being weird too, which seemed like the point here.

        Though I wonder how much age really has to do with it. These days her classmates probably are running AI off her yearbook photo, if not her instagram. So an old guy looking at her funny in meatspace is probably more innocuous.

  • Godnroc@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I’m so confused! All of the comments seem to understand, but I’ve got NOTHING. Is she doing something? I just see a smile!

    • Vespair@lemm.ee
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      3 months ago

      She’s trying to do ominous wide-eyes, like a manic character from a cartoon or something, the idea being that she would “scare away” the older gentleman with her “unhinged” look.

      Of course to anyone who has lived even a week in the real world, instead it just looks like somebody trying to looking intimidating and failing

  • Shou@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I’ve experienced both and I don’t understand how people manage to confuse the two.

    • Yerbouti@lemmy.ml
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      3 months ago

      One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn’t even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.

      • Shou@lemmy.world
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        3 months ago

        Fuck that’s horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn’t as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.

    • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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      3 months ago

      It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it’s not noteworthy when somebody goes “that guy’s just staring off into space” and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you’re a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it’s happening more often.
      I’ve lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn’t realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I’m much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.

      • Shou@lemmy.world
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        3 months ago

        Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.

        • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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          3 months ago

          Agreed. And older women being creeps too needs to be talked about more. Pretransition, in 7th grade, I had a math teacher who tried to flirt with me and it made me horribly uncomfortable, but I could never talk to anybody about it because people would act like that was a good thing and I should feel good for it, and those who acknowledged it was a problem still told me I must have imagined it. I can say one good thing about being a woman is despite encountering creeps way more often, at least I’m allowed to be upset about it now.

          • Shou@lemmy.world
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            3 months ago

            That’s fucking disgusting. She wasn’t just a creep, but a straight up peado.

  • livus@kbin.social
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    3 months ago

    I remember being young and thinking middle-aged people are staring at me because they want me /they disapprove/whatever.

    Now I’m middle aged myself, I know the staring is way more likely to either be something along the lines of “ah that kid is so 90s, I never had that green colour but blue Fudge used to wash out to green like that…”

    Or “have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more…”

    • macrocarpa@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      “OK so she must’ve bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that’s right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?”

      • livus@kbin.social
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        3 months ago

        Morpheus: “… and find out just how deep the rabbit hole goes.” Only it’s more like an interconnected maze of rabbit holes leading everywhere. I wonder if you can still get “pina colada” Malibu?

        Theoretically she could part her hair with a knife and bleach the green side, wait 20 min and put the black side on with a toothbrush, then wash it and add the green as required?

        I love how Gen Z has gone back to all that stuff.

          • livus@kbin.social
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            3 months ago

            There’s probably fancy metal hairdressing combs that would do it, but the “prow” of a normal comb is too blunt to separate the hair perfectly. You end up with strands from the left on the right etc.

            The old DIY trick is to turn a sharp-pointed knife upside down so that the blade doesn’t face the scalp, and then use the point to gently part the hair. That’s how you get a perfect straight parting.

            • Timecircleline@sh.itjust.works
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              3 months ago

              Okay, that’s a relief. I thought you were meaning to actually use a butterknife. I’ve only seen it done with rat tail combs so I was worried.

    • hordenduopol@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      I’m still wondering how the 90s entered kids garderobes again overnight. Sometimes I see a very funny xxxxxxxxwide jeans and I talk about that with my kids in the car and yes I do stare a bit with curiosity and amusement.

      • livus@kbin.social
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        3 months ago

        Fashion goes in cycles. Personally I’m just waiting for the nice wide jeans to filter down to an affordable price point and then I’m going to get some for myself.

        I hate skinny jeans. They feel cloying and I’m pretty sure they promote swamp crotch.

      • oatscoop@midwest.socialEnglish
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        3 months ago

        I know this Is an old post, but in the early 2000s 70’s fashion came back in vogue – a 30 years difference. And 30 years ago from today is the 90s, so it makes sense.

        I think it’s a result of the 40 year old crowd. They’re a demographic with money and starting to get nostalgic for their childhood, so the market caters to that . Kids get exposed to it, a few trend setters decide it’s cool/vintage, and it takes off from there.

    • TexasDrunk@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Or “have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more…”

      This is me. I have to really watch where I’m zoning out because I have absolutely been called out for staring when my brain was miles away.

      • A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.worldMEnglish
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        3 months ago

        I did this once in freshman year HS. I was sitting on my friend’s desk zoned out staring at a book on someone else’s desk, and I came out of it when a girl said “THOSE ARE BOOBS”

        Idk how long I was staring, but I was still kinda pissed because she was just standing in front of me for no discernable reason.

  • daltotron@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    What does it mean when a middle aged man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.

    • FutileRecipe@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.

      Staring is illegal?

      • Emmie@lemm.ee
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        3 months ago

        It’s super uncomfortable. I nowadays feel like a movie star but without any of the positives that go with it and only the negatives. Well mostly, sometimes someone smiles nicely which is nice.

        • FutileRecipe@lemmy.world
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          3 months ago

          It’s super uncomfortable.

          I absolutely get that, but I just didn’t think it was illegal or worth calling the cops for, which the person I replied to said should happen. But maybe I’m being naive.

  • Dra@lemmy.zip
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    3 months ago

    The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this generation

    • cerulean_blue@lemmy.ml
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      3 months ago

      The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this every generation

      Same thing happened in : 90s with Goths, 80s with New Wave , 70s with gender fluid androgyny, 60s with hippies, 50s with rock and roll… 20s with flapper girls.

    • RageAgainstTheRich@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Yeah its like they don’t understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.

      I don’t want people staring at me like I’m a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don’t understand that.

      • Hule@lemmy.world
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        3 months ago

        I mean, cockatiels can be seen in a zoo.

        If you look like one, people will stare…