I’m really confused about this. On one hand (✋), I can see how dating an autistic person would be amazing because we would just understand each other on another level. We would get each other’s emotions, meltdowns, joy, special interests, hyperfocus, communication style, etc. Also, there’s no NT partner to miss whatever NT thing we don’t bring to the relationship.

On the other hand (🤚), we definitely have some deficiencies that NTs don’t. Having an NT can help us regulate, keep us updated on social matters that we completely miss, take care of a baby that’s wailing crying, and other strengths that we just don’t have, while at the same time, we contribute with our own strengths that they don’t have.

NTs, please feel free to contribute! Your opinion and experiences are important too 🙂

I’d love to see a discussion on this topic. So what do you think?

  • baritone_edge@lemmy.ml
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    6 months ago

    Only had issues dating divergents. You’ve outlined ideal relationships for both pairings. Either ideal setup works great, but the issue is that it rarely works out like that. Lot’s of divergents are patient and empathic online, but my experience when it comes to dating they expect their emergency to matter and the partner (myself included) couldn’t deal with the situation at that level that quickly. Either way slow down the relationship. Date for years and years. Statistics say never get married.