• gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works
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      The non-offensive word I have seen used for a person who seeks out relationships with homosexual people despite being the opposite gender is “beard”. This is derived from the fact that it helps the male in the relationship present outwardly as a “real man” with a “normal relationship” in settings/societies where homosexuality is not considered acceptable to one degree or another. Also, sometimes homosexual couples of opposite genders will “beard” for each other in a mutually-beneficial dynamic.

      edit: it seems spoiler text doesn’t work right on a lot of mobile apps, including voyager. Anyways: watch For All Mankind. It’s great.

    • Sjmarf@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      Lemmy.world censors only “faggot” and the N word. Lemmy.ml censors “bitch” and various slurs. I believe their users can still see comments with these words in, though they cannot post them themselves

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        feddit.uk doesn’t censor anything at the moment, because I accidentally broke the slur regex.

        Normally, users from censored instances can still see rude words, they just get removed “in flight” if they try to post anywhere.

        • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.net
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          Well the first one has basically one meaning that’s derogatory (including the definition of a bundle of sticks used for kindling; that’s literally why it became a slur as it implies you want to burn them) while the three letter word is also slang for a cigarette in much of the world.

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            removed and fag are used interchangeably in much of the world. Both have other means, both are derogatory and both mean gay.

            Makes no sense to censor one and not the other.

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        Am I missing something? I have absolutely no idea what you guys are talking about.

        Is there a slur somewhere in this post or the comment section? And TIL that Lemmy communities can censor words. I’m from blahaj.zone btw

        • Sjmarf@sh.itjust.worksOP
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          Lemmy instances are able to censor words; it can’t be set per community. When viewing a comment from an instance that censors some word, that word will be replaced with “removed”. This applies to both comments sent by users of that instance, and comments sent by external users.

          Blahaj doesn’t censor any slurs

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          Aha, so it seems that other instances do censor the words for their own users. It was “fag-got”.

  • SchmidtGenetics@lemmy.world
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    A few colleagues would make drinking games of shenanigans like this.

    I even know couples who have set up tinders for each other and see who can get the most matches or starters.

    It may indirectly affect the other users experiences unfortunately.

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        Well I would assume most people using these apps knows not every match or conversation will go somewhere.

        Theres also a massive difference to be upfront like the meme, and dragging it out and leading them on.

        If you are just looking for likes or matches, where’s the harm in that?

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    Definitely bi, or the autist in me wants to believe this man is lonely for male companionship/friendship and doesn’t know where to get it

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    I knew this guy. He always wanted to suck my Schlong or f with me. Told him i ain’t gay. He replied he neither, he just finds vaginas disgusting and schlongs beautiful, hence it’s not gay at all. He just prefers guys coz they have said dingdongs.

    Told him that was somehow very gay. He got really really really pissed at me for hinting he might be gay. He hates gays and find them repulsive. It was at this point that i realized, he verbally held me hostage. How to reply to that? I didn’t know.

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    Lactose curious is a thing, one of my coworkers will have dairy on special occasions and plans for the aftermath