• daltotron@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    This is me with one of my friends, except I also have a high tendency to recognize his friends also, since they’re usually also people from high school, but then they don’t recognize me. I’m a background character dude, it’s kind of awesome.

    • Same here. I’ll bring my friends to a local show and I always know half the cast. I got to introduce my friend to one of her inspirations a few days ago, and she cried.

      I’m a performer so we all know each other

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      Me too, and it’s pretty wild. I live in a small town and have had enough odd jobs/encounters while being friendly that i seemingly know everyone. It’s also a bit of a positive feedback loop as well, because i know enough people that they keep introducing me to new people, who then introduce me to even more people.

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        I’m also this guy. I’ve connected some wild stories too LoL. Two girls who looked eerily alike but didn’t know each other… same Dad LoL, he bailed on the first girl when she was 6.

        The other one that blows my mind is two guys who share the same kinda unique name. One id been friends with my whole life the other about 5 years. The more I got to know the new guy the more I HAD to get him together with the old friend. Turns out they’re now great friends and they now get together more without me than with me LoL. Their similarities are so creepy. Same unique first name. Same middle name! Sons have the same birthday, one year apart. Before they met, they lived within walking distance of each other. There’s more. It’s a total glitch in the matrix.

        Just treat people well and fun stuff can happen.

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      Me too, but I don’t like it. When I’m out with friends, I’m out to really enjoy my time with them and it’s especially great when it’s a few of us. I get really awkward and feel like kind of a douche when people come up to me to say hi and chat. Especially if they decide to join us or merge groups.

      It’s an issue when you have many different social groups or networks through work, hobbies, schooling, etc.

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    8 months ago

    This is invariably the case when a person deep in the Introvert side of the scale goes out with a friend far into the opposite side of the same scale, (i.e. an Extrovert).

    On the other hand there are situations were it’s the Extrovert friend that feels awkward and the Introvert one that is at home and energized, normally anything to do with figuring out and solving really complex problems and situations rather that casual socializing.

    It’s absolutelly normal to feel comparativelly inept next to an expert doing their thing in their expert domain.

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    My mom and my brother, whenever I went out with them when I was younger, would always greet at least 3 or 4 different people. I was always the weird, edgy, antisocial scarecrow

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    My friend says I act like this.

    I read a book called “how to win friends and influence people” and it completely changed my life for the better once I started taking the book literally.

    Everybody tends to be selfish and think of themselves (not in a bad way). If you play into this and learn what people are interested in, you instantly become interesting to that person.

    “Hey Ricky, how’s your hot wheels collection! Get any new classics?” True story, different name. That’s just the butcher at the grocery store I frequent. He’ll tell me all about his latest hot wheels collection, and then I get a discount, we both win. I’ve made a friend, and influenced him to give me a deal.

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      But how do you even know about his Hot wheels collection? It’s not like I ask all store clerks for their hobby.

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    My mom. Grew up in a small town of about 25,000 and my mom was the front office manager for the local orthodontist. Orthodontist was great and even folks from “the big city” went to her. My whole life was going out with my mom and running into people who wanted to talk

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    Lordy yes. I have a friend who’s apparently friends with everyone else on the planet earth, he knows everyone from the mayor to the dog catcher to every person in every neighborhood we go into. Wherever we go, people come up to him and greet him and I’m like - uh - I’ll just stand her and hold your coke. I feel like the wall flower that hasn’t left my apartment in 25 years.

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    I’m kind of that friend because I’ve had a chance to meet and work with a lot of famous people without ever being especially famous or successful myself… but I do have a lot of stories. Both professional and incidental.

    For example-

    My dog played with Eric Idle’s dog in a park one day. We were the only two people there. We talked about dogs.

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      You and your friend just casually met one of my favorite comedians/actors… Some people have all the luck. Well, at least this comment places me at (a very tenuous) two degrees of separation :)

      Any noteworthy encounters with Cleese?

      Edit because I misread

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        Cleese is kind of a jerk sadly. I can’t say I was personally introduced but I was in his vicinity for a spell in a professional capacity. I love his comedic persona but I can’t say I would want to have an extended discussion with him… He’s very… Acerbic in the not pleasant kind of way.

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    I am acquainted with quite a few people in my smallish town (35,000) and it’s very hard to go out and not run into at least one person I recognize. I frequent most of the local shops, get to know the owners, get friendly with the clerks. It serves one well to get to know people.