every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I’m not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)
its not new food, I’ve been to these places many times before
Anxiety?
If that tiny idiot of an amygdala in your brain thinks you’re in danger then nausea can be a symptom.
You’ve known each other for 3 years? Wow that’s cool! How long did you know you liked her?
like 2 years. I was too dense to see she liked me back, she was too shy to say anything. were here now I guess 🤷♂️
Nice. I imagine you have been looking forward to dating a lot?
yep
Makes sense that there would be some nerves involved then. Even if you’re not feeling them consciously. I’m sure there’s a risk to dating someone you’ve built such a good friendship with.
Good on you for going for it!
I have a similar issue sometimes. I feel like I get overstimulated by smells in restaurants… Also I’m lazy so I eat boring food at home, so maybe the variety contributes to the nausea.
Also I’m celiac, which definitely doesn’t help.
Maybe she’s poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?
not really, she came over once and we ate like polish crepes i made, and that was fine, but not much of a meal, no
I would try that a few more time, the fact that you were doing something will help with any anxiety
Are you reacting to her perfume? Maybe she didn’t put it on when you were just friends.
no she definetly did, same one as always, and its not strong
also that would make me nauseous in the car as well, not just when eating
Restaurants don’t serve food. They serve drugs that are intended to hook you and make you come back, not nourish you and keep you healthy. It could just be the cumulative effect. People who eat poorly get worse and worse over time.
I think every large establishment that serves food to the public should be required to serve food that a person could eat FOR EVERY MEAL and be healthy.
Lol yea yea and chemtrails are actually a secret government project for mind control
Good point! OP, are you eating on the restaurant’s open-air patio? Perhaps chemtrail chemicals are filtering down into your food from the sky.
They’re designed to make people look up
What shape is the Earth according to you?
At this point, I feel like I’m not going too far out on a limb if I say turd-shaped.
Everything is turd shaped on a long enough timeline
Sir, you do not have a worthy username to be saying crazy things on the internet. That’s MY thing! And if anything, you gotta have drugs! Do you know what this world would come to if Danny DeVito ever ran out of cocaine??? He would get all oiled up, and we’d all have to look at his butthole, as Chyrol Crow sang dongs about irony. Because WE were the buttholes all along!
See? THAT’S how it’s done! Now go see my post about why Burger King should start advertising nuts on pornhub.
Beautifully done, as always. Don’t think I didn’t see all that chaos-sowing bait in there!
I’ve worked in quite a few restaurants, and although they were full of drugs, the drugs were usually in the cooks, NOT the food.
usually
So you’re saying there’s a chance?
It can happen when the cooks ripp a fat line on the edge of a pan, and half of it falls in because they are too inebriated.
Bahahahah
Yeah, I can tell YOU know what I’m talking about.
Yup restaurant food is drugs and it’s turning the fricken frogs GAY
Does she stink?
Sounds like anxiety. Mild nausea and loss of appetite are something that I deal with on a daily basis. If you are happy then it could just be nervous excitement, like having butterflies in your stomach.
Yeah, OP didn’t say how long they’d been together but if it’s a new relationship after 3 years of being friends, especially if they’re young and/or there’s been lingering feelings for some time before becoming “official”, then anxiety and nervous excitement is likely to be high!
spot on. wed liked eachother for two years, and were young too so
If nothing else is triggering it then my advice would be to cherish the feeling while it lasts! Go on dates that don’t involve food for a while or stick to lighter food that doesn’t involve sitting in a restaurant to eat. Once things start to feel more normal between you then you can try formal meals again.
If she’s suggesting restaurants in the meantime then just be honest with her, she’ll likely find it sweet and endearing and it’ll help to calm the nerves.
maybe you’re right
thing is well usually spend a good couple hours together and need food at that point
but well see, might be best to try and avoid food for a bit
Cooking together can be a fun “date”. Do it at your place so you won’t feel so much anxiety. Or if you need food that badly after a couple hours make some popcorn and eat it while you watch a show or movie.
Allergies maybe? Most women use special makeup for dates. It could be something she’s wearing like lipstick. It could be something in the food like peanuts or olive oil.
Try cooking dinner at home together and see if it happens.
It’s called an anxiety attack. Talk to a therapist about it.
That does not sound like an anxiety attack.
Nausea is a common symptom. Maybe you haven’t experienced it but it doesn’t mean it’s not a symptom for others.
Oh, really Doctor?
And while you’re disqualifying trauma victims, are there any rape victims you’d like to tell “had it coming” or were “just imagining things”?
Since, with your psychic powers, you know so much. …
“I disagree! Also: rape.”
You’re the one playing psychic doctor by diagnosing mental illness over the internet based on little to no information.
Op asked for advice here. This isn’t a free for all to go accuse everyone willing to give advice as ‘playing doctor’. That’s straight up troll behavior.
Whilst i dont agree with them that this is an anxiety attack (although it does sound like it’s potentially related to anxiety or nerves) i dont think it’s fair to put them down for “playing psychic doctor” as you put it.
OP came to lemmy to ask for people to help them determine the cause of this problem. They are asking people to, at least in some way, “play doctor”
I k ow there is little information to go on but for all.we know the person your replied to might actually be a doctor and GPs do telephone appoi tments where you tell them your symptoms and they diagnose over the phone.
This isn’t a far stretch from that. I just think a lot of assumptions have been made here, and therefore, you aren’t much better than the “doctor” you are responding to.
(Having said all that, they blew a gasket whe you called them out, so perhaps they are a little too sensitive to be someone who needs composure, like a doctor)
Tell me more about what I’m thinking as you reading my mind
While you’re at it, open up a drive-thru, since you’re also a world-class projector.
What the fuck is up with this kind of behaviour on Lemmy tonight? So many people flying off the handle at the slightest hint of disagreement.
You need to chill the fuck out. Also, if they’re a world-class projector they should open a drive-IN not a drive-thru. This is cringy ass behaviour. Smh
too poor for therapy lol (I need it but womp womp)
Then journal. Dump your thoughts onto paper, consider and reconsider. Just write out what you think. It can be a text file, a paper notebook with pen, whatever. Just write a lot.
yeah that could help, I’ve just always been a “bottle it up and call it a day” kind of guy
dunno, my mental health has been improving now that I’m out of school honestly so well see
I find it helpful sometimes to write down the negative shit then wad it up and throw it away or burn the paper.
Seriously, journaling has been extremely helpful, I only started doing it after I started talking to a professional (other than a few classes in school) and it makes our talks infinitely more productive. It really really really helps me organize my thoughts and emotions in a way that just letting the day wash over me and rolling with with it does not.
You need time to process your thoughts and feelings. You can effectively “mini” counsel yourself just by stepping back and getting a different perspective. Words are powerful things and when you’re forced to slow down and try to summarize the incredibly complex emotional/psychological feelings we all have every day it can help you deal with things and give you insight into yourself, it’s a very powerful tool we can all use.
Except for at the beginning of dinner dates.
Do you at least acknowledge it’s psychological? That unless she’s dosing your first bite with ipecac, there’s no physical reason to feel nauseous during the first couple bites of dinner dates?
Don’t bottle up. That was the whole point of Inside Out. You have to experience the emotions.
Don’t bottle it up. Decades of experience talking here. Do what you can to come to terms with your feelings, thoughts, etc. Then find a job that has good mental health care and see a therapist.
Advice: you will likely need to try out a couple before you find the right one. When you’re comfortable with someone, you’ll know.
I’ve heard great things about these self-help tools from the Australian Centre for Clinical Interventions: https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/Resources/Looking-After-Yourself/Social-Anxiety
Does she chew with her mouth open?
It’s because you’re pregnant.
But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.
Studio audience: OOOOOOOO!!!
Pregante.
am I gregnant?
Is you prefnet?
can u burn a luigi board?
don’t think that’s a possibility currently
very interesting tho
probably due to inflation and the price increase 🤷🏻
Go to the same restaurants at the same time under the same conditions (i.e. how recently you ate another meal, day of the week, the weather, etc.) but with a different person and see if you still feel ill. Vary the conditions until you find one that correlates with your illness. Then try altering that condition.
If you feel ill under all conditions then see a doctor. In fact it might be good to make a doctor appointment anyway.
But babe, we have to go out tonight. It’s for science!
“You’re not my sidechick, you’re my control condition!”
“I know you’re sick of it, but I’m gonna need you to get the chicken Parm again. Trust the process!”
Isolating variables like this is so cool!
yeah good idea honestly
unit testing eating?
