People who make me feel like crap or worse off then when I encountered them consistently are written off and out of my life
Doesn’t matter if its family, nobody is entitled to your attention and suffering and it does nobody any real good for you to succumb to the inevitable dysfunction it creates in your life and relationships and also material conditions.
I can’t save the world, but I can make my corner a little nicer.
Decision results in bad outcome. Oh well, lesson learned.
Work on diagnosing and fixing the problem first, worry about appointing blame later (if at all).
This one is very important. This is one of those helpful rules I’ve actually learned in business environment first before I started applying it in personal life.
There exists a problem. Problem requires a solution. Solution requires diagnosing problem and using reasoning to solve craft solution.
Assigning blame (root cause analysis) can wait. First, fix problem. Then analyze how/why problem happened and implement corrective and preventative actions.
A company I used to work for actually had a policy of never to assign root cause as “Human error”. Individuals actually never got blamed. Instead, it was perhaps that there wasn’t enough training, or certain procedures were lacking which could’ve prevented the problem, etc.
One time someone had accidentally broke an $8 million dollar piece of equipment. They were never fired, or reprimanded at all. Instead, the investigation assigned root cause to lack of adequate safety procedures, or something like that. Therefore actions are taken to help prevent recurrence instead of just saying “They did it! Fire them!!”
They were a great company to work for because of this.
“First is best”
To avoid overthinking decisions that don’t really matter, the first acceptable choice is the correct one.
Save your indecision for stuff that matters.
I’m sure your wife loves you…
“Babe, why do you only last 2 minutes when we make love?”
“I’m first to cum! I win at sex!”
You’re saying your wife’s pleasure doesn’t matter to you?
Me? I was talking about YOU! Its your rule.
For making choices. It’s not a race, buddy.
If you ain’t first, you’re last Ricky Bobby!
Relates to intuition right?
If it works for you, do it. Ignore what other people think
People either enhance or diminish your life. Very few are neutral.
Treat them accordingly.
What makes a man turn neutral? Lust for gold? Power? Or were you just born with a heart full of neutrality?
Im obsessed with truth. Its been a struggle and kept my mind occupied much through my life. It still stays with me but I am more accepting that it is a journey without end. As for the truths the acceptance of the never ending journey and the ethic of least harm. I lean toward selfishness in my morality so am unwilling to compromise for the greater good.
If someone tells you something, that something does not get repeated without asking for permission first. People don’t have to say “can I tell you this in confidence?” Absolutely everything is kept in confidence.
ITT Americans using morning news headlines to cope with their miserable 3rd world existence.
Hmm… Acshtually, it is local evening news that allows them to cope properly
ITT presumptive condescending europeans
Don’t have your mouth write checks your ass can’t cover
Or
Under promise while over deliver
Aim to surprise, and you’ll never not impress. Unless its a dark surprise.
Make it work, then make it work right.
And it’s companion for understanding how things came to be- every complex working system invariably developed from a simple working system
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”
Now that I think about it, my principles like my life may be all about engineering…
Don’t let “perfect” be the enemy of “good”.
When I make maps for ttrpgs, I’ve started using a tool that is, let’s be honest, kinda crap. The maps I can make using it can only ever be “good enough.” This is good, because it means I don’t spent hours trying to make it perfect, and instead just finish prepping other things.
MVP is a good tool I was just mentioning. Picked it up unknowingly from coding, still working on generalizing it to my life but its working and rightly for me
Why does one need strong opinions? And what are they actually?
To me, having a strong opinion means I have thought about the problem space enough to understand what I believe are the important aspects and what optimizes them. Remembering to hold them weakly in the light of previously unconsidered or under appreciated arguments prevents me from becoming overly rigid.
Have strong opinions that are weakly held.
Ooh this is excellent phrasing of a good principle
When deciding what to do, the order of trumps is legal, then prudent, then right. Do what is legal unless what is prudent is illegal, then do what is prudent. If doing what is right is neither prudent or legal, do it anyway because it’s right.
Never start fights with people. Always be prepared to finish a fight someone else starts with you, quickly, without posturing, hesitation, or mercy. Regardless of their size, shape, color, creed, or uniform, bullies can never be allowed to win.
When solving a problem, always start with the simplest possibility first.
Never lend anyone: Your truck, your pen, your chainsaw, or your wife. No matter what, they’re going to do something with them that you’re not going to like.
You can never have too many pens, flashlights, knives, or bullets.
Adapt or die.
“Always eat your dessert first”
Meaning, when you feel overwhelmed by a huge task or a long list of tasks in front of you, start with the easiest, smallest and most pleasant parts. That way you overcome inertia and the feeling of standing in front of a huge, looming mountain, and get in the groove.
Once you’ve started, the next task on the list is just a little bigger than the last, which you’ve just successfully completed. That way you can get a lot done, step by step.
When only the biggest and most difficult tasks are left, you can break them down into smaller steps (don’t “clean the house”, just “pick up this one thing and put it away”), and again, do the easiest steps first.
Some people say you should start with the hardest stuff to get it behind you, but I have ADHD and trying that just keeps me from starting anything at all.
Save the hard stuff for earlier tho. You have the most energy and patience earlier after you sleep so optimize for that window or energy
And then you fail, or you’re overwhelmed by negative emotions associated with the task, and you’re frustrated and go back to doomscrolling or trying out another Linux distro.
Quit being poor is the only thing that will remedy most of your problems.
I have no more right to interfere in someone else’s life than they have to interfere in mine.
Avoid people who don’t share that view.
