Be true to yourself and don’t be afraid to say how you feel. That’s what it means to be human; no one gets extra points for hiding it.
Not everything what shine it’s gold…
Apostrophe’s aren’t alway’s where they be’long.
Pick something to get good at, then really work to get really good at it. The younger the better. But be focused. Ideally something you can make money with.
IMHO that’s a surefire way to burnout and self-doubts later on. My advice would almost be the opposite.
Never too late to change if what you’re doing isn’t working for you. Recognize when you’re about to kill your passion with expectations, and don’t do it. There is little to no cross-disciplinary knowledge that doesn’t come in useful, so don’t force yourself to be single-minded in your pursuits. What you’re learning matters surprisingly little, that you’re learning matters so much more.
But yea, don’t change major pursuits, like, every year. Probably depends on the person which advice they need. I definitely would have needed the latter.
The best time to start regularly exercising and eating at least moderately healthy food is 10 years ago, the second best time is now.
You know something that helped me exercise regularly was… “you’re going to be scrolling through your phone. Might as well do it while on the treadmill/peloton/etc”
But I can’t be at a treadmill and take a dump at the same time. Actually I could, but I don’t want to.
Yeah but you can do curls on the toilet while watcbing YT
Sure you can. The belt will just fling it off the back.
I heard the same advice about investing for retirement. This feels like a glitch in the matrix.
Usually it’s “the best time to plant a tree”, that way it’s a metaphor for everything.
But don’t switch completely to a healthy diet all of a sudden, do it slowly. Otherwise your body may not handle the drastic change and you may get health issues (mine was a belly button infection 🙃).
Don’t try to have a good diet and workout routine, try to regularly improve your diet and workout routine.
The best workout routine is the one you can stick to. Plenty of people online will tell you that to lose weight you need to be doing cardio in a certain heart rate zone or to gain muscle you need to weight lift a certain way. That is technically true, but useless. A great workout routine is just walking for half an hour each day. It is a much more realistic goal for out of shape people and simply getting your heat pumping and your muscles moving regularly will get you most of the health benefits you need.
Same thing with diet. A keto or intermittent fasting diet may be the fastest way to burn fat, but they are very hard to stick to and when you break them, you will be so hungry that you will eat enough to gain back all the weight you lost. A more realistic plan is to cut out a sugary beverage from each day and to make sure that every meal includes a vegetable high in fiber. Once that is an established habit, build on it with other small changes that move you closer to a healthy lifestyle.
I work a very sedentary career and don’t have a ton of energy after work/kids, but I’ve found having an under the desk pedal cycle to use during the day has done wonders for my physical and mental health.
I have an under desk treadmill and it is easily the best investment I’ve made for my fitness.
Don’t date someone through high school into college. You are young, you don’t know yourself, and you will change a lot. Also, there’s thousands of new people to meet in college and, if you’re already taken, you won’t know where a conversation after class could take you. Be free and experience life.
I can’t really speak to this personally except that from what I’ve observed in friends it seems fine for people to just end up even marrying their high school partner. Not my thing, but they seem as happy and stable as anyone else.
Either way I would highly recommend staying at least friendly with old friends / intimate partners. They provide invaluable insights later in your life.
No one can call you on your shit better than someone who’s had their fingers up your ass.
Damn that last sentence made me laugh.
Yeah, we are still good friends. But all the opportunities we both missed because we thought we were forever is kind of disappointing. And you don’t get those college days again.
And for the downvoters - I’m not saying don’t marry your high school sweetheart but, if it’s meant to be, then find your way back to them and at least you know and it’s not just default mode.
I think people romanticise (fetishise?) relationships in university/college. People are only marginally more mature than they were in high school. I’m sure dating as an adult sucks but a relationship is a relationship regardless of how you meet each other.
Find someone you can share the good and the bad. Someone who won’t judge you for how things turned out. Someone who will just listen and appreciate you being there. Be that person to them as well.
It doesn’t have to be a partner. It may or may not be your parents. But find that person. And never let them go. You may not talk for years even. But always remember them.
I like everything except that last part. DO MAINTENANCE ON YOUR RELATIONSHIPS PEOPLE. Not enough people maintain relationships
Never send an email or text that could get you in trouble later.
Goes well with “you have 2 ears and 1 mouth cause you’re expected to listen more then talk”
Or my favorite that I learned from an impromptu mentor: when unsure what to say, shut your mouth and hold your stare until they start talking again. You can put a thinking stare, defying stare, unsure stare, doesn’t matter, while you’re not giving away your position they’re giving away theirs simply because they’re uncomfortable with the silence.
It’s really easy to have an alcohol problem without realizing you have an alcohol problem. This is especially true in people with certain personality or mental health conditions. Alcohol cost me a ridiculous amount of money and at least one job and nearly a couple of others. I was drinking to get out of social anxiety and have addiction issues in general, but somehow didn’t see how bad I was getting. I would take time off drinking and think I was fine, but I always went back to it. Never start that. Also, never start smoking.
If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.
I’m not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.
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honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy
Hey you’re like seven steps ahead of me.
I only entered the phase of hating society instead of myself when I was like twenty-three.
You could also be autistic and have the same experience like me or even both
Or you could just be comparing yourself to the unreasonably high standards set by archaic cultural norms.
Basically if you’re a teenager and think you’re failing at life: No, you aren’t, just give yourself some more time to figure things out.
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Isn’t ‘failing at life’ the normal teenage feeling? It sucks, but it will pass.
Exactly, just because your parents or grandparents were married and had good jobs at 18 and bought a house with cash at 20 while having their 3rd child. That’s not normal anymore. Do your best with what you have, and repeat to yourself “I’m not responsible for the economy. Things don’t work the same way they did 20 or 40 years ago.”
Me too actually
Important note: just because at some point you felt attraction to people of opposite sex, doesn’t automatically disqualify you from LGBTQ
The opposite is also true. Just relax and like who you like. Sexuality is a spectrum. Just don’t worry about it and didn’t stress about who you’re attracted to.
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Citation on that? I’m sure it’s possible, but weirdly-specific percentages with no citation make me suspicious.
In in my, it was just a lot of factors of upbringing and had really weird ideals and probably a dash of neurodivergence that combined to give me this feeling. Getting out of the environment I was in, getting some mental help, etc. solved that for me.
The percentage is just a quirky way of saying it’s a high chance, dw about it.
Get a dashcam. It’s worth your whole car and everything in it.
Get. Your. Oil. Changed.
It’s quite embarrassing, but I don’t drive very much (have been working from home for almost 5 years now) and let time and miles get away from me. I’m currently waiting to hear back, but I’m very likely going to need to get a new engine, so this will be the most expensive mistake that I’ve ever made.
Same…
Not just, “change your oil at the recommended intervals”, but “change your oil annually, even if you don’t reach the service interval”. If you car is going to be sitting for an extended period of time, drain the tank, run the car dry, put the battery on a tender, and change the oil before you start it back up. (Reason: most gas in the US has ethanol in it, and ethanol is hygroscopic. Water in your engine is bad. )
Don’t get entangled in interpersonal drama among the people you know. If someone comes to you with some petty bullshit about someone else, and you weren’t there, don’t take their word for it, don’t repeat their story.
Don’t get married unless you are 10,000% sure. People invariably get sick of each other over time. It can feel like a prison sentence. Real life is not the movies.
“Relationships take work”. Yes. Absolutely. But would you buy a car that costs $50k or more to dispose of after it’s broken down and unrepairable?
It feels more like a deployment. There are mission objectives and your team is okay most of the time, but your time is never your own.
People are different. Even if 10000% perfect matches, there will be issues in between. Just give sometime.
Multiple solutions are there, like counselling. Understanding each other plays a big role. If you are parents, you gotta hell of responsibilities and less time for arguments.
Brush teeth 3x day, floss 2x day, checkup 2x year
It really helps later. Like life altering
Yep. Look after your teeth folks.
You only have to brush x2 daily and floss once daily for the teeth you want to keep lol
Tell people in your life what they mean to you and that you love them.
Often and always, you never know how much time you have together.Call your mom, dad, your grandparents, spend time with your kids, with your nieces and nephew. Tell them all, that you are proud of them or grateful for them and that you love them.
We always think we have all the time in the world to spend with family and people we love. But if one of their lives is cut short, you might regret it forever!
Also, after breaking with my parents, and telling my kids I love them, I realized how very rare it was for my father to tell me he loves me. So, tell people what they mean to you and that you love them because it might not seem like much at the moment, but it means a lot in the long run.
Some people can’t do that because their parents will use that against them. They love their parents but need to maintain a certain emotional distance so they don’t leverage that for emotional blackmail.
Of course who you tell is not universally the same. Just tell the people that are important to you. It doesn’t matter if that is your biological family or your chosen one.
