Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.
Now that I’m bald, I now know what’s it’s like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.
But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it’s gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.
It feels weird. I don’t feel that bad but still it’s disheartening.
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I find whenever I make a drastic hair change that after a few days, I couldn’t imagine going back to the old style
It’s like if you shave a mustache. “Where’d your lip go?!” then 2 days later you look normal again.
You don’t, so appreciate the time you’ll have hair. Because once it’s truly gone, you’ll look back on this day and cry.
Exactly, Fabio here, is complaining about his hair.
I’d just like to say, as an actually bald person, I think it’s okay. It suits me, it’s low-maintenance, and it’s nice in hot weather.
Thank you butthole spiders! 🕷️🕷️🕷️
Older guy here, went bald in my 20s. Let me say this: while going bald or becoming bald sucks ass, being bald is fine. I had lots of thick hair, and when it started going away and I didn’t look like me in the mirror anymore. I figured women would find me less attractive.
What I learned is that it takes a while for your self image to catch up to your reflection in the mirror. One of the shitty things for most people about going bald is that it happens over a long time, and when you’re used to one level of baldness, it gets worse. But eventually it levels out.
There are women who aren’t attracted to bald guys (and that’s fine, attraction is subjective), but it turns out there are women who are especially attracted to bald guys, and that the vast majority of women don’t care. Doing things like having a comb-over or wearing a toupee are often a turnoff, but I think it’s as much because of the associated lack of confidence than the look itself.
I can sincerely say that I wouldn’t want my hair back today. The look suits me and it’s easier to deal with.
That’s exactly it. There was a grieving process for a few months as I came to terms with it, but now I don’t think I’d go back if given the chance. I’m a bald guy, I look good bald and can make bald jokes whenever the ice needs breaking.
The only bit that really sucks about being bald is if you don’t wear a hat you get skin cancer.
Yeah, true, there’s an increased risk, and I’m not as good about it as I should be.
Or if you do it in the cold, you get the mother of all brain freezes after a while.
On the other hand, direct scalp access can come in handy for various medical things, and on a hot day I love splashing cold water on it.
well, for one, sunscreen! Sunburnt heads suck. Hats as well.
It took some getting used to (I’ve gone through phases of shaving my head and having long hair. Recently, since I work outside in the heat, I hit it with the clippers every few days leaving just < 1mm. You’ll probably just get used to your new style which will help the confidence which helps everything else.
You could always try having some fun with wigs. Lots of options there, from realistic to completely outlandish. You could even try cutting & styling one if you wanted it to look similar.
Just think of yourself as Rob Halford for the time being.
You put way too much value on your hair. You are the same person as you were before other than losing your confidence
I did some thinking and came to terms with it. I personally believe that everything in this life will come and go and I shall be happy that I had the privilage of experiencing. While I do believe that I am a mentally strong person, this was a kick in the balls. Perhaps I’m not as strong as I thought I was. The only material thing that I value is my hair. While this situation is temporary, the thought of losing my hair just me cry like a baby. Which I think speaks volumes because I can’t remember the last time I cried.
I don’t think “bald” is the right expression. You have a shaved head, which is different, right?
Also, shaved heads can go with most kinds of fashion. Your hair is always perfect, no matter the wind or rain.
Finally, if you got self esteem only because of compliments on your hair, now is the perfect time in life to find other ways to love yourself. Deeper ways. :-)
If you were getting bald (which you might not) you’d have 2 options:
- hair transplant (if needed) and medication for the rest of your life.
- shave/trim and move on
I’m generally for team 2. I’d hate medicating (which from internet opinion has various long-lasting unwanted side effects) for the rest of my life for such stupid thing.
I must confess, I have the benefit that I don’t look that bad. Also, being fit becomes much more required when bald, 😅, you have to compensate your older look; and side effects from exercise are virtually all positive. So I’ll take it.
accepting your baldness will always look better than being all
about it.though that doesnt seem to be the issue here.
All the men on my mom’s side of the family have been bald for as long as I can remember so I knew I was doomed when my hair started thinning in my early twenties. Now that I’ve been shaving it for years, I don’t miss it one bit. It’s so much less of a hassle than keeping it clean and straight and cut neatly.
It’s just hair. You can either own it or wear a hat while you wait a few months until it grows back – and then be grateful that it still does.
I understand your feelings, as living with great hair and liking it and going to bald must suck. Take comfort in fact that it is temporary.
But as a bald man - being comoletely bald is fucking amazing. I can’t compare with having good hair - had short haircut all my childhood, decided to grow it longer in my mid teens (wanted to be a bit morr stylish) - and that’s about the time I started loosing my hair. So had to go to shorter lenghts so it’s not that obvious and went full bald around 17 when I had a visible bald patch anyway. So can’t compare but it was the best decision I made - both at the time and for the future. I shave once a week and everything is easy. And I was blessed with a great skull shape so looks good.
Much more salty about me not being able to grow decent facial hair though. That beard and bald look would be sick but oh well. We have to play with cards we were dealt.
Are you Samson? What kind of magic hair did you have?
Althrough I think a good cut is good for a good first impression. It’s not a big deal, they will eventually grow back. You can cure other aspect of your style.
I voluntary shave myself in the summer, and I know very well that I am more handsome with long hair. But I don’t care and so do others.
There are some good aspects of a bald head eg. Time efficency when I shower and feeling fresh during the day.
Own it
Getting older I can only say: looks are overrated. During my time I used to have all kinds of hair styles: metalhead with long hair, medium length, short hair, almost no hair, and right now I have like half a centimeter, because it’s so hot weather and I sweat a lot and felt uncomfortable. Last time I cared about “how do girls look at my hair” was probably in my teens but even then I went against the stream, because metalhead long hair was far from being desirable.
IMO you should focus less on how do other perceive you (your look) and more on how you feel yourself. Having less (no) hair has so many benefits I can’t even think of going back to anything longer than ~inch. Sure I might look dumb, but that feeling of air breeze on my skull is so refreshing I couldn’t care less. Another benefit is much easier care. When I had long hair it felt like a chore to use shampoo, conditioner and brush the hair while it felt almost instantly “in need” of the procedure again. Now? Tsssch, I use whatever: shampoo, regular soap or just water, fast rinse and hair are almost immediately fresh feeling and also dry (huge plus imo).
And the most important note. If you ever find/found a partner who is/was with you just because your fabulous hair, I can assure you it is/was not the right one.
