I suppose that specifically I am wondering if there are any things you do to perhaps:
- stay calm
- calm the other person down
- get them to understand you better
- understand their point of view
- diffuse trolls
- just be a good person who wants to participate in a conversation that enhances your understanding of others, different cultures, and the world and how it works
also, sometimes i consider what i’m responding to even after hitting the send button, and may have more to say. i find that editing is less-than-reliable as a means to make sure statements are seen. making a separate reply is simply practical in many circumstances.