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Cake day: September 30th, 2023

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  • Anyone thinking that lemmy is a welcoming space to women should read through that thread first.

    Edit: the current state of Lemmy and the fediverse reminds me heavily of early reddit, for better and for worse. You can curate some pretty supportive communities if you are careful picking them out, they remain well moderated, etc. But there are plenty of places where you’ll get scummy content if you wander or if posts attract too much attention.










  • I had some really helpful advice with this, especially in a professional setting: instead of apologizing, thank the other person instead.

    • Sorry this was late -> Thank you for your patience
    • Sorry I fucked up -> Thank you for correcting me
    • Sorry I can’t stop saying sorry -> Thank you for the feedback, I will try to do that differently in the future

    People like getting thanked a lot more than they like hearing “sorry” every 5 minutes.







  • This is a general frustration, so not at all about you specifically, but: we can’t keep condemning a whole state for the actions of their shitty government, even in a “haha West Virginia is full of republican hicks” or “can someone saw Florida off the mainland like Bugs Bunny already” or “Texas can just secede if they want, I don’t care”.

    Painting these entire states by the brush of their elected government lowers our empathy for the people there, and that includes the people who didn’t vote for these gerrymandered fucks, children who are affected by these policies without their input, and people who can’t leave even if they wanted to. Those are real people who deserve to have things like libraries and the chance to escape poverty.

    When we oppose policy decisions like this, we can’t leave behind people who agree with us but are in terrible circumstances that they have no control over. Statistically the people who are going to make the West Virginia state government any better are already living there, and we need to be in community with them rather than pushing them away.