Doom music starts to play and you realize you’re not the main character…

Care to post context? Otherwise this is just the petulant whining of someone who has a bad take.

Hello?

Yes, we wish the fascist is dead, but the things we talk about will put the fascists in power. Somehow putting the fascist in power will definitely end up killing them and not giving them everything they ever wanted. Trust us.

Fellow unashamed omnivore. The vegans have the moral high ground. I hope one day to become one. No need to shame or be ashamed of eating meat though. Changes to society take a while, shaming and blaming rarely improve the situation. It often makes things worse.

Always trying to truce with the tankies and nazis, but the tankies end up executing you and the nazis always send you to the camps. Who could have predicted this?

Hey, I am not saying liberals don’t work hard. They work very hard! Then they watch as Conservatives walk back everything they did and more, with less popular support.

They have the supreme court, they have taken away abortion rights. Jan 6th happened which was an attempted coup and very few were charged, some that were, were even released. Trump is openly talking about election fraud for the upcoming election. Trump is talking about becoming a Dictator. That is just the big stuff.

Yeah, they aren’t that popular, but that doesn’t seem to be stopping them.

In any sane society these actions would be lead Trump to be tried for Treason and MAGA to be labeled as a terrorist organization.

Because I am right ;)

“That quote is out of context”. In what context would it not be bad?

This is a problem with liberals. Conservatives are playing to win, even if it means playing dirty. Liberals are playing to play. That is why Conservatives are winning and getting more powerful even while being openly wrong, weird, and stupid.

Good questions!

So in an ideal world, if you have a feeling. You should be able to say something like “I am having emotions and I need some time alone to deal with it.” and then leave the area to find a safe space.

Unfortunately, we are rarely living in the ideal world. The next best thing to do is to communicate that you are having feelings and might do some wacky stuff. Only do this if you feel safe to do so.

If you don’t feel safe to communicate or go find a safe space, then yeah, your kinda stuck to power though it. If you find this happens often you have to weigh weather or not it is worth changing your situation. This is very hard to do and is a result of pervasive toxic masculinity and bad luck.

As for the situation with your x it could be a range of things from she was affected by toxic masculinity as well (the expectation that all men need to be emotionless) or at worst, she was using the fact that you didn’t feel like you could show emotions against you. So when you showed emotions, the gig was up. Either way it sucks, I am sorry you went though that.

My personal preference is to only date people who understand that all humans have emotions. You need to make your own calls in this regard. Again, unfortunately, we don’t live in an ideal world.

Part of the challenge of moving away from toxic masculinity is we have to be firm with our boundaries. This may get expensive, so you have to weigh out how much life suck you can deal with. Its not always clear what the right answer is.

Good luck!

All right, let me give it a shot…

Masculinity is good

Toxic masculinity is not good.

Toxic masculinity includes things like couching nice comments in mean comments. Saying things like toughen up instead of listening to feelings and concerns. Not doing a good job with personal hygiene because it’s “gay”. There is probably more, but it’s 7:00 a.m. and my brain is not thinking good.

Being a man means that you’re a human. And like all humans you have feelings. No, you did not use your willpower and/or big brain to remove feelings from your system. No one can do that. All you’ve done is removed the ability for you to detect your feelings. Others can see them clearly, because you have lost the ability to identify your own feelings and are not able to tell when you are having them. Hint: A lot of times feelings will transform themselves into anger if you don’t have a good understanding of what’s going on inside you. Even feelings like sadness, if not understood can come out as anger.

“I don’t know” is a valid response to a question.

Not everything you do has to be “rational” we are humans not computers.

Figure out, create, and enforce personal boundaries. Likewise respect the personal boundaries of others.

As a human being, you have intrinsic value. This is not tied to the work you do or the money you make. It is only tied to the fact that you exist. Because of this, you deserve to live and enjoy life implicitly.

Assuming you’re straight and you want sex with women. Sex is good. Straight women love sex with men just like straight men love sex with women. There is an unfortunate history between men and women where men are the aggressors, and have caused lots of pain, suffering, and death. This does not mean you are bad. It does mean though that you need to deal with the consequences of that history. Understand that going on a first date from a woman’s perspective is very scary. So don’t do anything that would cause concern. Be considerate. Give the woman an out. Keep your sketchy jokes to yourself for a couple of dates.

When dating, remember and enforce your boundaries and respect their boundaries. Women, like men, are not intrinsically good at relationships.

Pro dating tip from me to you: I have found sometimes that women just want to have someone listen to the problem they’re having and sympathize. They’ll do this even though they already know the solution. My instinct has been to try to suggest solutions. This does not go well. Just listen to their problem, resist the urge to suggest the obvious solution, and say something like " Wow, that sounds hard!"

I understand what I’m asking is very hard to do, but remember 99.999% of my advice also applies to all humans, not just men. It’s just as men, you’ve been kept out of the loop by culture. It’s not your fault. Feelings and boundaries are hard for everyone. It’s like learning how to ride a bike at 30 years old. Most everyone already knows how to do it. And now you’re at the age where it’s hard to learn.

Don’t forget you have intrinsic value. Love yourself!

It took me a long time to get over it. I’m still not the best at taking pills.

I suspect some people just naturally have a harder time than others with it.

At least my pie in the sky fantasy model of government is an actually fleshed out model of fucking government!

It’s not authoritarian of fascist is it?

Ohhhhh!

I think I see the problem. You and I have different definition of authoritarian.

For me, if Bernie becomes president and get rid of democracy, the house, the senate, and the supreme court and becomes the “supreme” leader of the US, that would be authoritarian.

For you (I think) it if Bernie creates a government reading program to help kids read better is is authoritarian because that would give power to the government regardless if we are a democracy or lead by a “supreme” leader.

Ok, so to be clear, I haven’t seen anything from Bernie to indicate that he is being my definition of authoritarian. So I don’t see an issue. You have been giving me example of Bernie doing and saying things that match your definition of authoritarian, which is quite a lot given he is a Democratic Socialist. You’re confused as to why I don’t see this as a problem. Am I close?

So I think this is one of those situations where we actually agree on what Bernie is about. It’s just that I think we should have reading programs and single payer healthcare and you do not.

Shit, I wish I had caught this sooner.

Sorry for the delay been a crazy week.

No need to apologies, I hope things are going well.

Sander’s actions to dismiss problems in a desired government program is aligned with his ideology.

So your saying Sanders has an anti-government ideology? To say another way, Sanders want to maximize the amount of dismissed problems in the government? I mean maybe, but I am not buying it because he then worked to pass the Veterans Access, Choice and Accountability Act. Why fix something you broke intentionally? I also don’t see how this is a step towards becoming an authoritarian leader. Trump is doing way better at becoming an authoritarian leader than Sanders and he isn’t even trying.

Some OG Source but the context here is, after Das Kapital.

For the sake of this discussion I will agree with you that the original concept of Socialism required an authoritarian leader. Bernie doesn’t claim to be a Socialist, he claims to be a Democratic Socialist.

Capitalism is a system that’s designed to orchestrate the economy of a state.

I don’t understand why we are talking about Capitalism. Did Bernie say he would get rid of it if he could?

But when given power he exercised that power in the same fashion that non-Democratic Socialists of the past have done.

Yes, if Bernie was authoritarian, I would agree. But no one knows that except Bernie. Any political leader can be a sleeper authoritarian. Even George Washington could have been an authoritarian and just waited too long to do anything about it. I can only work on what a leader has said and done, not what is secretly in their head. I haven’t heard or seen anything from Bernie that indicates he is authoritarian.

Sander’s is likely the most sincere public figure in his support of his policies…

I agree that Sanders is a democratic socialist. I am confused as to why you brought this incident up then. I thought you were trying to prove that Sanders was an authoritarian, but it seems like we both agree that this was a mistake he made and not some outcome that he wanted to happen or that was aligned with his ideology.

But Socialism explicitly calls for creating a heavily centralize givernment

It’s not clear to me that Socialism explicitly calls for that, maybe I have missed that. But Bernie is a Democratic Socialist. I understand this to mean that democracy would be used to create the laws, not an authoritarian. A similar concept to what the US uses today.

My point is that Bernie believes in socialism so much that he’s willing to ignore US Vets dying

If Bernie cared about socialism so much he wouldn’t have ignored the US Vets dying. That made him and anything he stood for look really bad, if anything you could say that Bernie doing this was an OP against leftism.

Centralizing control centralizes control. It creates one single point of failure to create an authoritarian society. Venezuela is currently experiencing how well democracies protect from authoritarians.

Ok, so it sounds like your definition of authoritarian is any power given to any government. You don’t just have a problem with socialism. You have a problem with democracy as well.

So then do you dislike everyone? Leftists, Centrists, and Conservatives? Democrats, Republicans, and Liberals? Are these all authoritarians?

What if the guy trying to set up the Boy Scouts regularly called themselves a fascist?

Well, if they called themselves a fascist or did things with fascist outcomes I would be very concerned. I would probably try to vote that guy out or try some other way to get them removed and hope someone else could create a boy scouts program with out being fascist.

Remember when Bernie was the Senate’s overviewer of the VA, the largest Single Payer Healthcare system in North America? And he called reports given to his office of the wait list scandal (where the VA would internationally and systemically let vets die without care to avoid caring for them) a right wing conspiracy and dismissed them. Which prolonged the time before the scandal was dealt with.

Is your position that Bernie hates all US Vets and wants them to die? If so, how does killing vets help get the US to socialism? If anything, it makes Bernie look really bad.

So it’s not, single payer healthcare causes authoritarian societies. It’s centralized control of formerly private production administered by people with a Socialist mindset causes increasingly authoritarian societies.

How does centralized control government control of things result in authoritarian societies? I would agree with you, if we didn’t have a democracy, is that what you are getting at?