That “rape aside” is doing a lot of heavy lifitng there and conveniently sweeps away the need to actually address anything that isn’t the “had sex, your fault” narrative you seem to be espousing here.
Especially given that there is little to no effort being given to exemptions of any kind.
Nobody is denying that sex is how babies are (usually) made, i mean apart from the “this book is the literal truth” christians i suppose.
or you’re trolling, in which case, congratulations…i guess.
I read your reply as stating that the only outcomes could be “argue and make things worse” or “don’t do that”, a negative and a neutral respectively.
I perhaps read only the words and not the intent, I think we are may be saying the same thing.
In case we are not :
Not engaging actively frees someone up to do literally anything else, which could overall be more positive than just the prevention of the negative.
In addition some people might consider the avoidance of the argument itself to be a positive rather than just maintaining a neutral position.
Choosing not to engage can also be a positive rather than just the prevention of negatives.
Or perhaps decide that interaction with such a person isn’t viable.
There is no requirement to adopt others particular eccentricities or needs, choosing to not engage can also be a valid choice.
There are of course potential downsides to this, but if each person is unwilling to adhere to a common contract of communication then the cessation of communication is a reasonable response.
It’s not considered bad , but it is a distraction, there’s supposed to be no communication between attendees.
It’s supposed to be full introspection, afaict.
Don’t know if its the same in all places but men and women were completely separate in the one I went to.
Even if you went with your wife you’d not really be there with her, you’d be two people in the same place at the same time, not communicating.
It’s not really a relaxing holiday kind of place.
I genuinely have no idea if it’s an option for you or if it’d even help but for 10/11 days of relative isolation you could try vipassana
Not sure what the northern US wait times are like, but you generally need to book ahead.
It’s free, it works on a volunteer basis, no idea how if it works for people with no fixed abode but proof of residence was not required where i am.
Do check if it’s suitable for you though, there are rules (albeit not many), they seem reasonable to me but might not be for you.
Isolation wise, there is no communication between attendees, but there are group meditation sessions (though they are also non-talking).
The three aspects that weren’t silent :
In this one instance they are actually losing their money, maybe, nearly a decade after the fact. Up until now he’s been living it relatively large.
I’d also put money on him still having a significantly higher amount of money to throw around, even assuming he loses the string of appeals and other legal bullshit he’s undoubtedly going to pull for probably the next decade.
Also money
There are officially recognised tests that potentially lead to officially recognised diagnoses. For ADHD specifically that can lead to access to medication you wouldn’t have without the official diagnosis.
For me specifically, the setup and config oftentimes is what I’m doing with the computer, the learning and knowledge gained from the practice is what I’m after, which is good because it’s significantly less fun than it used to be.
Admittedly mine is probably a non-standard case and it ties in with other things in my life.
Condolences on your loss.
Depends on how you define ‘cost’ I suppose, but seems like the trade off isn’t worth it for you, which is fair.
Some might value the perceived benefits much higher than you do.
What if the life I’m imagining I’m protecting is one where I have the option of choosing a platform/application that isn’t scraping the absolute dregs of the barrel to squeeze out that last bit of profit margin.
That’s a win win right?
Lots of practice.
For me it works like an elaborate pattern recognition tree.
e.g. This face in this context means x thing 75% of the time so far.
Then it’s “strong opinions held weakly”, you now have a working hypothesis but it’s just that, a hypothesis.
Every facial/body/word/etc change could be a modifier to the previous assumption. You could also match some newly remembered memory to the situation that also changes the impression of what is going on.
It’s exhausting, but it becomes easier with practice.
It’s gets more refined the more you are around the same people, as you get a ‘feel’ for their patterns.
You also start to build up a library of ‘shortcuts’ that you can sometimes apply to unfamiliar situations/people.
At some point it starts to become ‘muscle memory’ and the energy required to do it is greatly reduced.
YMMV however, I’ve no idea if this will work for anyone else in the way I have described.
I’d also say to remember that everyone is guessing to some degree or another it’s just that your guesses might require a bit more intention, whichever method (s) you settle on.
You do what you can with what you have, that is the best that can be reasonably expected of anyone.
Also levels for fecal matter in most things that come from agriculture.
Milk is weird, I don’t disagree, but governmental regulations on levels of “safe contamination” isn’t a milk only thing.
Other than cat milk, possibly? I’ve honestly no idea.
But " just eat/drink plants " will kill a cat right?
You mean cats? Are they not obligate carnivores?
I mean, yes? That’s a good summation.
The part where you get to call something “open source” by OSI standards (which I’m pretty sure if there accepted standard set) but only if you adhere to those standards.
Don’t want to adhere, no problem, but nobody who does accept that standard will agree with you if you try and assign that label to something that doesn’t adhere, because that’s how commonly accepted standards work, socially.
Want to make an “open source 2 : electric boogaloo” licence , still no problem.
Want to try and get the existing open source standards changed, still good, difficult, but doable.
Relevant to this discussion, trying to convince people that someone claiming something doesn’t adhere to the current, socially accepted open source standards, when anybody can go look those standards up and check, is the longest of shots.
To address the bible example, plenty of variations exist, with smaller or larger deviations from each other, and they each have their own set of believers, some are even compatible with each other.
Much like the true (by existing standards) open source licences and the other, “closely related, but not quite legit (again, by the current standards)” variations.
“It’s not libre / free as in freedom so it’s wrong”.
I think it’s more “It’s not libre / free as in freedom so it’s not open source, don’t pretend it is”.
The “wrong” part would be derived from claiming its something that it isn’t to gain some advantage. I’m this case community contributions.
There’s not a handwaving distinction between open source and not, there are pretty clear guidelines.
The book is great as well, there is also a prequel book “The Boy On The Bridge”
Your missing the part in the middle where you spend 6 months telling them in no uncertain terms that the thing they are asking is stupid and will not work properly/safely.
Various back and forth emails, a completely “justified” performance review program because of your “falling standards” and several meetings with various managers at different levels of “importance”.
Also the “You’re absolutely correct, ENJOY” is written at the bottom of your resignation letter or told to them directly in your “redundancy” exit interview.