Forgot to mention, apps that at least has a good following and matches in Europe.
Yea it’s a cool app called meeting people IRL, kinda obscure tho
No.
Next question.
Oldschool Runescape
Grindr. It’s only partly shit.
RIP if you’re looking for women.
Didn’t grindr have recently some shit that they were selling the confidential user data forward?
Dating apps have never been my thing but I think this would be a good fediverse project, maybe linked with something like matrix.
Fetlife can get you laid
Fetlife is not a dating app. They have actively not implemented features such as filter by age/gender in order to avoid becoming a dating app. If you are looking to get involved in your local kink community, Fetlife is the answer [0]. For anything else, it is garbage. If you try using it to get laid, you will just be pissing a bunch of people off.
[0] At least for my local kink community. Other areas might vary.
Can’t find an app with that name
I used Bumble to find my now fiance. I didn’t pay for it, but also was patient and treated it like an investment instead of expecting immediate results. Ymmv
Bumble is terrible for meeting people. Once you match someone they have 24 hours to respond. I’m fine with the woman needing to message first, but if you don’t respond in that 24 hours their match is removed. What if that woman has a life and didn’t open the app that day? Oh but you can spend money to extend that window. So if she’s on vacation yay you get to buy extensions for a week. It’s just a scam.
Women don’t even have to message first anymore in bumble, they got rid of their main gimmick. They’re just yellow tinder now.
No idea about Europe but Hinge is the one that I’ve known lots of people have successfully used, myself included, to find a relationship.
I used the Boo app to find my now fiancee. You can talk with people and it has a quasi social media aspect to it that you can also use to chat with more people, I live in a major city and managed to talk to a handful of people on the time I was there, some of those were started by them too. The chatting wasn’t limited iirc it’s a friends/dating app.
Granted I was rated 8/10 on the rate me subreddit so take that as you will.
Tried, it sucks.
Fetlife if you’re kinky. You gotta use it to find local events with fellow kinky people, meet up, vet each other. Etc etc.
If you look good, they all work.
If you don’t, they don’t.
Seriously, the free tier in every app allows for enough opportunities to match with someone. Whether that happens is really a matter of your looks (or well, the photos you’re using).
It’s a shallow world out there.
Unless you’re match.com where they charge you to like or even message people. Don’t ever use Match. OkCupid has been the most genuine one I’ve seen.
Just so you’re aware, Match owns OkCupid now, as well as Tinder, Hinge, Plenty of Fish and a bunch of other smaller dating sites. I don’t think they’ve all been ruined as much as Match yet, but it’s probably only a matter of time.
And one of them (Match?) apparently hsd a decency algorithm that matched people on things like religion and politics, but was disabled after being bought out.
Well this is depressing to learn.
Getting lots of matches is useless when you’re looking for a handful of great matches. For that you need a great matching mechanism with thousands of parameters - what OkCupid used to have before Match Group destroyed it.
A better question is can a dating app be good?
Around 2010, every tech bro that’s creaming shorts over AI today was trying to figure out how to make money behind the fact that everyone had smartphones. But it turned out, that smartphones can’t solve every problem.
Dating I would argue, is just one of those things tech made worse. Never mind how often the damn thing fails, think about the conditions where it would function well. A dystopian world where everything is shallow and operating on incel-math.
And how could it be otherwise? Dating apps are just math people trying to solve for love. This is the plot to a comedy movie, not a business plan.
Plenty of Fish and OKCupid were pretty good once upon a time. I used them in 2016 and most of the dates were alright.
There is Alovoa, it’s open source, still has a small user base, but you don’t have anything to lose…
Do note that, much like for example Telegram or Snapcraft, only the client is FOSS, not the network all the data is stored on.
So it’s not really FOSS at all, it’s just a loss-leader to draw you into the network, trap your data, and then enshittify and monetize as per standard practice.
That sounds a bit misleading, the server implementation is FOSS too, at any time someone could setup their own instance.
I’m holding the torch for OkCupid. I’ve met my SOs there. Many queer folk, leftists, likes work reasonably well and you even get free “superlikes” once a week. Messages are free, likes are free.
and you even get free “superlikes” once a week
… are we using the same OkCupid?
Well, I know this won’t be useful for a lot of people. But HER is a femme focused app (but open to all queer folk) that is super duper generious with the amount matches and chat it allows.
Yeah, I’m not going to cat fish as a girl
Okie dokie. Didn’t really think so, but it’s by far the best app I have used with essentially no pay well so I figure I’d mention it for anyone else who sees this thread.
