Here’s a lifehack:
- Quickly switch your gender to woman.
- Womansplain her everything that needs to be explained.
- (optional) Undo the gender switch.
Is that appropriating someone’s gender?
Can’t win.
“Wow, you’re saying I’m appropriating my own gender or do you mean I’m somehow not a real woman?”
I think this could go on for hours
Modern problems require modern solutions
Dang, a reply from both, FlyingSquid and TPM within 12 hours. If that’s no cause for a dab, IDK what is. *dabs*
Wow transmaxxing much?
Transminmaxing - time to optimise the fun out of everything
“Transmaxxing, more that meets the eye!”
Transmaxxed and explainpilled
Finally a technique I can master
One of the biggest and best lessons I’ve learned is that it’s OK for other people to be wrong. There’s few situations in personal life where it’s necessary to correct or educate others - they’ll figure it out eventually.
And if they don’t, then 🤷
A lot of times, things will either work out or not.
You have to let life live. Like in Star Trek with that prime detective shit. A long time ago I lived in an apartment complex and my neighbour would beat the ever living crap out of his gf. I heard her cry every single night. I just ignored it because she would eventually learn to leave the guy. After like 6 months I managed to move out and escape that place.
Wow you’re dumb.
Did you parse that comment literally? I took it to be sarcastic.
I feel like I’m losing my mind sometimes how people assume the most absurd troll comments are sincere and real. They’ve kept up the bit in replies too.
They agreed with the statement, then added an example of being a bystander to something clearly wrong where they chose not to interfere. As a result, the bad thing continued, and the commentor did not care so long as it stopped affecting them. It is really not hard to see the thinly-veiled analogy. And yet people point out the problematic nature of the story, likely after supporting the idea it is parodying.
And my vote still counts the same as yours. Your intelligence doesn’t mean anything.
I just ignored it because she would eventually learn to leave the guy.
That won’t necessarily happen.
Then it’s the will of the universe for that to happen
Can simeone explain why is lemm.ee full of such pieces of shit?
Because you touch yourself at night
How else does one sleep? Not touching yourself??
I sleep in a big bed with my wife
Oh wow you poor thing. Your poor ears had to hear all that. You’re the tru victim. Good thing you got out of that tragic situation that you made all about you.
Thank you. It was very hard for me.
Ask her what she thinks mansplaining is and listen intently to the answer.
I’ve had a rough last couple of hours. Seeing a King Pow meme really helped. Made me actually smile
Move on
I mean, it’s a trap and I know that. I still would.
I’m that guy.
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Girlfriend says something obviously wrong
If they’re wrong it’s just explaining and no amount of instagram posts and dumb takes will change that.
You can call out word misuse without necessarily stepping into “mansplaining” territory.
Don’t “memesplain” us
Speak for yourself!
I like this alot
But if they don’t understand what mansplaining is (and are the type to use the word despite not understanding it), any explanation you offer is likely to be considered “mansplaining.”
Check out this dude trying to Montoyasplain us
Kobayashi Maru time buddy. Time to get creative.
Reprogram your gf so that she says sorry and admits her mistake.
I started to use that in the title! But then I figured most wouldn’t get it outside of TenForward.
I was taught a long time ago a simple idea … Men hear a problem and try to solve it…”i don’t know x" ok let me teach you" or “I can’t get this thing to work” ok let me try if I can.
Women on initial compliant some times just want to know that you know they are struggling. Instead of "let me teach you” you could say “I’m sure you will understand” or “I know it’s difficult but you got this”.
Yes it varies by person some men prefer the latter and some women prefer the former. As with most things it’s up to you to know your partner and what they want…
I’m a problem solver by trade and in recreation (IT, games, etc), but I also complain sometimes without desiring a fix. Sometimes I know a way to solve it but am just complaining that it even needs to be solved, and sometimes I either want to share just because it’s interesting, or because it’s funny.
Sometimes I’m just venting, and an actual fix won’t help my mood while venting. Like I will take the advice and apply it later, but for thus moment, I need to get my feelings out. I’m a cis* male.
*(it’s been suggested I’m actually nonbinary or something similar due to my mild interest in gender fluidity, but I personally don’t identify that way, nor do I get bothered if referred to that way or by any gender).
Instead of "let me teach you” you could say “I’m sure you will understand” or “I know it’s difficult but you got this”.
Especially the latter one can easily sound condescending. And then you’re in the shit again
I don’t recall where I heard this advice but someone once told me that when he’s in this situation he asks his SO “do you want solutions or to vent?” Probably doesn’t work for everyone but I liked the idea
Yup some idea. I think I heard it on Reddit but you put it succinctly.
Anyone else reading this keep in mind this changes with partners and situations and maybe by day…without specific examples with lot of details it’s hard to tell. If you don’t know, ask kindly.
I’m pretty sure I’ve given this advice at some point on Reddit before.
Personally I know my SO well enough to know when it’s just venting. I don’t usually need to ask anymore.
Sometimes that works other times it gets so much worse
yea, it could definitely sound passive-aggressive
Presume they want to vent.
Someone who wants to vent gets mad if you try to explain.
Someone who wants and explanation won’t get mad if you talk to them if they want to vent.
Take the safe bet everytime.
This is very true and an essential life skill of anyone who is in a long term relationship.
Wait for them to directly ask for your help. Until then, be an empathetic and active listener.
You’ll get some serious points this way.
Asking questions is fine, for the most part (a part of active listening), just be sure they’re questions, not commands. Eg. (Primary complaint): " Mary was being a bitch today", bad reply “you should avoid her when she’s being a bitch”, same idea, but a better reply “did you try to avoid her to stay away from her bitchiness?” In the former example, you’re giving her a solution. In the latter, you’re asking if she tried that as a solution. The key difference is that in the former reply, it gives the assumption that she didn’t think of that, in the latter, you assume she tried and you want to know how that went, or why it wasn’t tried.
The former, implying that they couldn’t, didn’t, or wouldn’t think of that solution, also further implies that they’re lacking the critical thinking to consider that solution. Which, from what I have gathered, is the root cause of displeasure from men’s “suggestions”.
Your mileage may vary depending on where your wife/gf lands on the crazy/hot graph (mainly on the crazy axis).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg - The Nail
It is not about the nail!!
Trigger her! Explain why she’s wrong.
An easy trigger. “Mansplanning is a sexist term used to further divide the populous.”
got’em
Just start glaring disapprovingly for half an hour at minimum, shake your head slightly and then look away if you catch their eyes and most importantly refuse to explain yourself for days afterwards, just mumble something about “zplane” from time to time and if they respond just exasperatedly say “women” and walk away.
you guys should learn about softening statements.
You mean belittling statements? The kind where you act like you think the other is gonna freak out over nothing because you respect them so much?
thats a really good question.
Like “I don’t want to mansplain but mansplaining”
Lol, my girl doesn’t know the right context for the phrase “gaslighting” and I just have to accept it.
Go with the old Rick & Morty quote:
Gaslighting doesn’t exist. You made it up cause you’re fucking crazy.
Are you sure she doesn’t, or is she gaslighting you? /s
😱
Just watch the film with her, it ain’t bad for its time, and Bergman won an Academy Award for her part in it. 🤷♂️
How about: Wait, let me illustrate how mansplaining works…
