Living with with family instead of my own and watch porn.
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This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…
Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA
I live in the US too, but thanks to my patented secret* I rarely fly at all!
*Being poor
I just splurged and took a flight on JSX airlines, which is effectively a semi-private jet.
The cost was roughly double what Southwest would be.
What I got for my money was:
No TSA. Just a cursory screening that took the same amount of time as just walking without stopping
No terminal. Instead you go directly to the hangar equipped with leather couches and free espresso (though no food options)
You can carry on liquids
Only need to show up twenty minutes before departure
Free checked bags that are waiting for you plane side when you land. No baggage claim. It’s just… Right there waiting for you.
Free drinks and snacks including alcohol which were served as doubles by default
Free Wi-Fi
No seats next to mine. The plane is fifteen rows of one seat on each side of the plane
The flight attendant gave service like it was the seventies - like it really mattered that every passenger had everything they needed. She even noticed a passenger with a blazer folded across his nap, so she took it and hung it in the closet in the front of the plane.
Naturally, the big airlines are trying to shut JSX down, including but not limited to a campaign that such an operation is a threat to national security. I find it ironic that Southwest is leading this litigation after themselves fighting through decades of court cases and legislation for the right to fly out of Dallas unencumbered.
They don’t fly many places, but if they have a route I want available, I will certainly consider flying them again
I believe you that if you’re paying 2x a traditional ticket price you get a better experience, but I would really just prefer high speed rail lines that can service many people at once, not a boutique experience catered to the wealthy.
Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can’t afford to move.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk “legally” takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don’t mind stopping a few cars.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There’s almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It’s just kind of rotting away. There’s currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Eating out of stress or boredom instead of when I’m actually hungry. I am getting better, but still, sometimes work pisses me off so much it’s back to angrily stuffing whatever food I have on hand into my gaping maw…
All those dang tiny time wasters that happen every day. Needing to eat and drink… That kind of stuff. Can’t stop because I obviously enjoy being healthy.
Me: I wish I could stop paying taxes. Genie: poof Wish granted! Me: Woah…I don’t feel so good! Genie: It’s a fatal heart attack.
Eating out of stress or boredom instead of when I’m actually hungry. I am getting better, but still, sometimes work pisses me off so much it’s back to angrily stuffing whatever food I have on hand into my gaping maw…
I would love to stop having, not sure if they would technically be termed as flashbacks or PTSD-related anxiety attacks, but either way if those came with an off button that would be great.
Upside: sometimes my smart watch thinks I did an hour of exercise while I’m actually just sitting there with a heart rate of 120+ and it congratulates me 🥰
If that doesn’t count because it’s something I can’t really control, then probably picking at my cuticles. Bad habit I’ve had since I was a toddler that I’ve never been able to fully kick.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
Same. Idike to tone it down to 32h/week or even better 24h/week. So 8, respectively 6 hours a day for four days. Working for a non-profit organisation and even though we a trade agreement, because we’re unionised, living in a city on my own I couldn’t pay the bills if I’d cut hours.
Dude, same. On top of that, I also struggle with imposter syndrome and a work for a company with a burnout culture, which a recipe for constantly kicking your own ass for not having literally everything done always, so I force myself to try to be “productive” the whole time, which always, ALWAYS backfires, but the guilt from watching everyone else work themselves to death is just too much. I’m hoping to switch to a remote job with a company who values employee wellbeing over “the grind” soon though.
Where you’re at now sounds particularly bad, but having worked fully remotely for a few years myself, it definitely isn’t guaranteed to be better for your work-life balance. It’s difficult to separate the two spheres for one thing, and you can still end up in a situation where you may get requests, messages and pings come through at any time, constantly.
I’ve worked for roughly half a dozen employers so far. In my experience an employer may SAY they value employee work-life balance, that’s no guarantee they actually will. They may also genuinely believe they prioritise it, but still fall hugely short of what other employers can offer.
Fuck burnout culture though. Also fuck teams that celebrate “heroes”
It’s kind of funny. When I’m working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there’s an obligation to work on something, especially if it’s scheduled, 40 is unbearable.
Yep, my experience exactly. It’s mostly because I can define my own hours when working for myself. But also - When I’m working for someone else there’s also a nagging feeling that I’m pissing away my life force if I go as much as a single hour over.
Can you go for walks or something to help break up the day
Yes and in fact I do. Unfortunately it doesn’t help with the sense of “rigidity” of the schedule and how draining it is
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
Sweets. I’ve been through a ton of dental work the past year partly because of my love for sweets and desserts. Now that my teeth are on their way to recovery, it’s the risk of diabetes this time.
Eating fast food. I do a ton of driving for my job and am frequently hours from home. I could pack my own meals, but the company covers lunch if I’m away from the office. I don’t have to stop for any health reason, I just don’t really like the taste after five years of the same things over and over. I’d be more ok with it if there were more options, but I’m in a rural part of the country.
right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I’m feeling that!! I’m on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can’t get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like “what do you mean motivate myself? That’s not how motivation works?”, because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I’d like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
Of course, I do things because they’re fun to do. But those things don’t require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it’s usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It’s a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it’s now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn’t be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other “regular” mints, but it doesn’t have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints…
