Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

  • GlitterInfection@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I leaned on as many friends as I could. Break ups are universally difficult and even friends you might not have seen in a while tend to have empathy and love to spare to help you get through this.

    I also leaned on as much self care stuff as I could. I take long baths, sleep a lot, and take an appropriate amount of time off from work as sick time to do things.

    Also, block your ex and purge his stuff from your life as fast as possible. That’s usually the best option if he pulled something like he did here.

    I’m sorry you’re going through it. Remember to grieve and that grief isn’t a linear process. You’ll have good and bad days, but you can get through to the other side stronger.

    • cryshlee@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      10 months ago

      I plan to. It sucks because we’ve also been working closely together on a lot of dream projects and I have to decide whether to give that up and destroy what we built, or stick around and torture myself and my sanity. I can’t make that decision.

  • gmate8@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    Scientifically speaking, yes, it takes time for your body to rebalance your hormones that love inbalanced, and messed up. Good news, it won’t take so long.

  • foggy@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Alcohol really does the trick in the short term, but it’s a slippery slope.m that can make it oh so much worse in the long term.

    • cryshlee@lemm.eeOPEnglish
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      10 months ago

      If only I could just ride the liquor until I forget I loved him. But who knows how long that will take. The liquor will have me by the end of it.

      • gmate8@lemmy.ml
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        10 months ago

        It isn’t a wise choice to get into an addiction to help cure something else.

  • Night Monkey@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    You learn to move on faster and faster as time goes on.

    Pro tip. Don’t date people you were friends with prior to getting with them intimately. Unless it’s for a FWB situation. It very rarely works out