Dang, this post needs a Fediverse equivalent to raisedbynarcissists.

You were raised by mindless people who constantly misused their time and money in ways that directly affected your daily life. Their anti-logical ways left you constantly neglected in some ways, despite the fact that they had the means to cover all your basic needs. This neglect was obvious to anyone who saw you day to day, but they blamed you because your family controlled many decisions that are normally left up to the kids.

That being said, you’re not talking about “everyone” as your title suggests, you’re talking about your family. Also, their word are complaining, but they are actually bragging. There is a high cultural value on being busy, and they’ve found ways to be VERY busy by having a literally insane way of life. They have a routine, several routines, they’re just absolutely not logical and built around excess.

Still, this is not a question for a broader audience, but a rant about one stubbornly insane family.

And the answer is, because they are more proud of their chaotic, difficult lives than you are proud of your planned, easy life.

edited to clarify and expand