I’m not against those who work for sex, but the idea to earn for a living doesn’t seem nice. IMO, sex should be for 2 people (or more for others who prefer polyamory) who wants to be intimate/romantic with each other. My point is money should not be the purpose.
Regulate it, keep the workers safe, ensure they’re well compensated and tested. Basically, treat is like every other profession.
If two consenting adults want to exchange money for sexual favors, who cares? If the worker chooses to sell their body for money via sexual acts, why is that inherently worse than someone who does construction selling their body for a living?
Out of curiosity, why does sex need a purpose? Why should it be or not be for anything in particular? What makes it any different from, say, juggling?
Sex work isn’t just prostitution, by the way. It’s anyone making a living off of sexual content. If you’re shooting porn or are a cam girl, you’re a sex worker as well.
Prostitution is problematic in that currently, because it’s an illegal service, it’s largely being performed by people who don’t have a choice in the matter. Human trafficking is a huge problem. If prostitution were legalized and regulated, if the societal “we” changed our collective attitudes towards it, life would improve for a lot of people. I struggle to phrase this next bit in a tactful way. If you’re against improving the lives of so many people because it doesn’t align with your view of sex should be for, that’s pretty shitty of you. Not saying that’s the case, I don’t live inside your head, but that’s how I see it.
In places where prostitution is legal, the amount of human trafficking goes way down, because the brothels in these places are usually inspected pretty regularly. They have to follow regulations or else they will be forcefully shutdown, and the employees being their willingly is usually one of those regulations.
out here you need a license for it as well. Which, from what I’ve heard, is not easy to get
I like looking at pictures of naked people, so I’m grateful to those naked people.
If sex is the question, I think yes (or thank you) is really the only appropriate answer…
Eh, sometimes “No, thank you” is also appropriate.
Do you not believe in casual, not romantic sex?
Yeah i forgot about casual thingy. Maybe i should edit my post to include that, but the idea of money being involved is not something i’m comfortable with (yet? - i’m keeping my mind open for this discussion)
It’s not for you to be comfortable about unless you’re planning on paying or getting paid for it. That’s like someone who paints their miniatures and agrees to paint the miniatures of a friend not feeling comfortable about money being involved, because he’s doing that for other reasons, but there are professional miniature painters.
Anything you do for fun you’re likely to be uncomfortable charging for, but you need to remember that that’s not your job, and regardless of what your job is there’s a good chance that someone out there likes to do the same thing for fun and would feel uncomfortable charging people for it.
I don’t judge at all. Not all sex work is sex for money, but even in that case, I think it’s fine. There’s nothing magical about sex. And there can be lots of reasons a person might not get all their needs met within a relationship.
I do worry it can be a trap for some, but I think it’s a valid choice. Idk. I’m specialized (trapped) in IT work and whore myself out to corporations for money. Ultimately there probably isn’t that much of a difference.
This is where a good ol’ “hate the game, not the player” applies.
I have no judgement of the people who do it to make money. Any issue I have is with the economy and culture that drives some to do it to survive when they wouldn’t otherwise choose to.
Your point about money shouldn’t be the purpose… but some people, especially women, are stuck where sex work is their best paying option. It’s not their fault.
In a perfect world where no one is forced to do any particular labor to survive, when consent is given 100% of the time, and everyone’s safe, I have zero issue with sex work from any angle. In this imperfect world, my issue is with the system and not the individuals working in the industry.
Yes. All the issues with sex work come from cultural and systemical issues. For example that it’s very opaque for people outside of the industry, the stereotypes you have to deal with, people judging you constantly or it’s not illegal everywhere.
And not to say there’s not some fucked up shit happening in the industry.
I think the argument should be the same like with drugs: it’s generally good, but it can be a problem and just for the transparency and oversight we need to make it legal everywhere but well regulated. That’s my opinion.
My point is money should not be the purpose.
Take this and apply it literally every aspect of western culture. It seems like you personally have strong feelings about how you think sex should be, but there are many, many people who disagree. We live in a society, I say mind your own business if someone’s doing something you don’t like that also doesn’t affect you
We live in a society
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It is also called the world’s oldest business. They have done it long before I could ever judge it, and they will continue afterwards, whatever my judgement may be.
Sure it’d be great if basic needs like food, shelter, healthcare and yes, sex, weren’t commoditized, but until we get Sexicaid for All, I’m fine with people making money from sex and paying for it. Legalize and regulate it for the safety of the workers and the customers.
^Someone please come up with a better name than Sexicaid^
Sexycare, or maybe sexicare?
omg I’m an idiot I was trying to riff off Medicare for All and used Medicaid instead, Sexicare definitely works
I think if it doesn’t affect other people, and nobody is being exploited/everyone is participating willingly, then it’s none of my business what others choose to do.
I’m actually trying to help sex workers, particularly porn Creators, use the fediverse to take control of their social media. I want to help them keep control of their own destiny - https://xxxiver.se
Sex trafficking or impoverished/addicted people turning to sex work, no. Society has failed them and we need to fix the underlying problems.
Sex work as a concept I take no issue with. I think it solves a lot of problems interpersonally. Dating would improve with less need for people to hide their motives. People too busy or uninterested in relationships would have an outlet, and disabled people who otherwise can’t attract a partner benefit greatly as well.
Migrants and vulnerable populations already take dangerous jobs, like roofing, and many will refuse to take really dangerous jobs if they don’t feel comfortable.
Classifying sex work as some higher tier of danger is a bit silly imo. also it will happen whether or not it’s regulated so by not having some kind of legal protection around it, people with no other option will end up doing sex work anyway, but with fewer protection from abusive pimps.
Those are also problematic examples, I didn’t say it was a higher tier of danger than other high risk jobs.
Personally i am ok with sex being for money, as long as its a choice. Nobody should be forced into sex work. One can say that work by definition is exploitation but if one has multiple work options and they choose sex work as a line of work, i am ok with it being an option.
I approve of it in that it’s legitimate work, unlike being a landlord, and lots of vulnerable people end up doing it as the only method of supporting themselves, as well as a lot of single moms trying to deal with making an income and parenting, etc. I would not disparage anyone doing it. Would I worry about their emotional and physical health and safety doing it? Yes. We have a sex workers collective drop-in center in my city who make efforts to try to help keep them safe, such as testing, condoms, etc, which is great. But I can’t help but wonder how someone’s mental health would be affected by just being a glorified blow up doll. There was an Ask Reddit once about what people saw on porn sets, and someone who worked on one said all the girls seemed really fake and unhappy and vacant emotionally, and that concerns me. I would not want anyone hurt by doing this work is my point, but I don’t object to them doing it of course. Just please take care of yourself!
Edit to add: last weekend my church took a potluck to the local park where there is a small tent encampment of unhoused folks and invited them to eat with us, which they did, which was nice, and although they were shy we all talked a little, and some of them were clearly sex workers from what they talked about. One had what I think was scabies on her skin, and that’s the kind of thing that worries me.
Conceptually I have no problem with it, but in practice a lot of people feel like they “should” or “have to” become sex workers out of desperation for money. That can seriously ruin your life. Work under capitalism is inherently unethical, but sex work especially so.
Legalize it, tax it, regulate it like any other job.
I’d not buy any, even when single.
I would consider selling before a lot of other jobs. Depends on the money really. Not much of a market for straight, average looking, men in their 30s however.
