• Death_Equity@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I am pretty hard to offend because I know they are trying to offend me and I know they are made of easily mechanically separated meat.

    • Lvxferre@mander.xyz
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      4 months ago

      If you respond in anyway, they achieve their purpose of being annoying.

      I think that this is a good rule-of-thumb, but following it 100% of the time would be unwise. Sometimes you actually get a more desirable outcome by calling the person out, and gathering support against them.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Where do we draw the line for slur?

    I’m sure we can all agree that one word that starts with N would count, but what about doo-doo-head, dumbass, or fatso?

    • Don_Dickle@lemmy.worldOP
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      4 months ago

      As a student of history I could mention a couple besides the N word that probably no one uses today. But I don’t want to get banned.

  • Vanth@reddthat.comEnglish
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    4 months ago

    Uh, pretty sure I was called a bitch for the first time at like age 3. How I’ve dealt with being called bitch/slut/cunt/hag/feminazi/whore/so on and so forth has changed as I’ve grown and also by the specific experience.

    Men get called “dicks”. I would consider that a slur and would guess it’s not a one-time “this is how I dealt with it” kind of occurrence for lots of men.

  • Lokiya@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I was first called a dyke then bull dyke in elementary school. I had no idea what it meant and the boy who was calling me that was hitting my head from his seat on the bus behind me. So I grabbed his backpack and and flipped him over the seat.

    All the gay slurs were the most common to use against me. Though I did get called a n- lover a few times as well.

    When I was younger I fought back physically and/ or verbally. As I got older I would just question the person on why what they were calling me was a bad thing.

    Though I do think my favorite come back for any of the gay slurs when thrown by afab people would be saying: “yeah and trust me, it will never be an issue for you.” While giving them the up and down with a disgusted expression. Seeing the confusion then anger then confusion go across their faces was always amazing. They couldn’t argue with it other wise they would be saying they wanted to be seen as attractive by someone of the same sex.

    • norimee@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      All the examples you told, say absolutely nothing about you but tons of things about the other person.

      They are basically shouting “LOOK AT ME, I’M A HATEFUL BIGOT!!”
      Thats way worse then anything they could call you.

      • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world
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        4 months ago

        That’s pretty advice, but doesn’t help much when you’re a kid who’s getting chronicly bullied while the adults look on.

  • philpo@feddit.orgDeutsch
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    4 months ago

    Not even 48h ago. Well in the end I involuntarily admitted the offender to hospital.

    Worked on the ambulance. Basically got stopped by a member of the public and informed a guy acting strange in front of a shop. Had a look, got called a few very nasty slurs, called for police backup. Clearly the patient was of unsound mind, not orientated, etc. After some more talking the cops restrained him upon my advice and he got admitted to a somatic(normal) hospital. Whole trip was full of slurs towards everyone, even random passerbys.

    Somatic hospital checked him throughly and then transferred him to a psychiatric hospital.

    • norimee@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      Ha, working in healthcare you get called every name and slur there is. Worst for me was emergency room and when I worked a specialised intoxication ward. You can really learn sonething and fill up your ‘alternative’ vocabulary.

      One time that stayed with me, was a patient calling me a ‘Dictator’. But it was acute psychiatry and most patients were there on court order, so I kinda was dictating what they could and couldn’t do.

  • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    4 months ago

    “Are you saying you expect us to warranty the engine and a 10-yo car with 140,000 miles, that you bought used? Because that ain’t gonna happen.”

    “Ooohh! You a smart ass little cracker ain’t ya!” And hung up.

    Had to grab a black coworker and ask what a cracker was.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeEnglish
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    4 months ago

    All the time. A slur can tell you about one’s honest thoughts which in turn can tell you about the slur. In any case, it affects how I see them which in turn affects my courses of action towards them.