Let me preface this by saying I am a man, and smoked a little too much, so I’m sitting here thinking… what is or was the original purpose of a bra? Weight support? Vanity? Covering the nips so people’s eyes met your eyes and you can have a normal conversation? Like what’s it all about?

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    It’s very sexy to see nipples through clothes. I don’t know why but it’s just much hotter than seeing bare breasts.

    Maybe people ask you to wear a bra because it’s making guys get distracted.

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      They do, but they shouldn’t. You should not ask a stranger to change their behavior because you cannot control your own. Maybe family would do it for you, but even then it’s can be a shitty thing to do.

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        You can’t ask guys to not get distracted. It’s not a choice they are making.

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          It’s not a choice they are making

          It is if they’re friggin’ adults. Despite the media, we’re not supposed to be just led around by our penis’; unable to avoid being distracted by bewbs.

          That’s a cop out that guys use as an excuse to not evolve.

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            Disagree, and you see the same thing in women when there is an attractive guy around.

            This political correct bullshit trying to make people think it’s wrong to be attracted to someone is just ridiculous. :)

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              No one at any point said not to be attracted to that person. But that doesn’t mean people (men or women) should be drooling rutting animals about it.

              In the adult world that (most of us) should have left behind after our bar-hopping twenties, finding someone attractive can be done without eye-fucking them like a creep.

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          You absolutely can ask them that. Noticing it is not the same thing as getting distracted by it. Allowing your focus to be highjacked by the environment is a sign of a weak mind. If you went to work and a coworker told you the shape of your nose was distracting to them, and you need to wear a mask so they can continue to work, that is on the coworker, not you. It is absurd to put someone else in charge of what needs to be done to stop you from being distracted.

          People need to control themselves, no one else has that ability.

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            Won’t happen :) And disagree about the weak mind as well. Has nothing to do with mind, it’s hormones. Ask teenage boys to have their hands on their cover and exercise their willpower… :)