Several transgenders who I know, always envision themselves with like goatees and other typical attributes that shape them into this trucker guy look.
And I just don’t get it and spare me the whole “that’s just what they wanna be” responses. Because, there are other male models to ideally go for than just that. I personally don’t find the look attractive myself so I can’t really care that they go this direction.
That isn’t all that a guy is anyways, that isn’t even what it usually takes to look like a guy.
The problem with all of this, in my opinion, is the societal stereotypes and expectations on men and women. Requiring people to fit into a classification for the convenience of others does not allow them to “just be who they want to be”. Who are you to tell someone they should look one way or another? If we could all just accept people dressing how they want or enjoying the pleasures of life however they want, most of this entire cultural conversation would be irrelevant. People struggling to conform to the stereotypes set by others is causing mental and emotional instability. Thankfully, things are getting better and, most of us, are accepting of people for however they want to present themselves. Personally, I don’t believe that means they need to “identify” as a male or female but that’s what they need to do in order to subvert expectations.
Why do you dress the way you do or like the things you do? Why do you believe someone who is unlike you needs to justify how they see themselves and what they like? I dress and act the way I do because it’s what feels like “me”. I’m a guy and look at the vast majority of “male models” (whatever that means) and find I have nothing in common with them at all. To be honest, I’m more comfortable dressing like an old lady than a “trucker guy look”. So, are you going to question why I dress the way I do as well?
I hate to break it to you, but things are actually getting worse, not better
That may be true in some places but I don’t think so across the board. Don’t let the news cycle or the vocal minorities twist reality. Gay marriage is legal, we have gay members in congress and the president’s cabinet, and trans political leaders. Overall, things are better than they were 20 years ago. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_transgender_political_office-holders
I don’t have hard evidence for this, but I would wager that it’s just getting louder. We’d rarely, if ever, hear about hate violence when I was a kid. Now it’s everywhere. Why? Is it because it’s more? No, statistics show violent crime is on the decline. It’s because it’s louder. News media didn’t use to talk about it, they’d hush it up or write about other reasons. Now it’s more accurately reported because there are lots of public LGBT voices.
No because that’s not the focal point of the question. For fuck sakes, it’s responses like this, that demeans and just shits all over any honest questions that could be asked. You turn into this fictitious strawman of a scenario where you think people are asking you more than just the question I posted here. You’re assuming people are going to be like that which, by the way, is ironically a stereotypical behavior in of itself.
People could be asking things out of curiosity or sheer innocence. It’s YOU being the one making it personal. Remember that - YOU.
If a child ever asked the same question I just did from the title of this post, are you going to berate them the same? I sure as fuck hope you wouldn’t.
I understand that and that’s how I responded. Again, ask yourself why men choose adopt this look. Why do you believe trans people are different?