• JamesStallion@sh.itjust.works
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    8 months ago

    I find some old friends hard to hang with. They aren’t wrong, they don’t need to improve, they don’t need to be called out or change anything, we just no longer vibe. I think it would be weird that I try to force them to turn back the clock on the person they are becoming just so that we can be compatible again.

  • taiyang@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    Is it depressing comics week already? (/s, I know it’s not)

    Seriously though, ghosting sucks.

  • KnoLord@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    But if they do not want to improve after having a intense conversation on the matter, where both perspectives are being valued equally (or if they do not value your perspective at all), then yes: fuck them.

    • exocrinous@startrek.websiteEnglish
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      8 months ago

      But that’s not what’s happening here. Blue is explicitly against telling Red what the problem is. You’re changing the subject to a hypothetical nobody else is talking about. It feels like you just want to invent a scenario where people who empathize with Red have to feel bad about themselves. Did a Red hurt you?

    • OpenStars@startrek.websiteEnglish
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      8 months ago

      Ironically, blue shirt here is showing that off in reverse: refusing to do due diligence, simply ghosting red shirt with no explanation whatsoever, against the explicit advice of green shirt. Anyone who ghosts may even be doing other people a favor to warn them to stay away from their own toxicity.

      Irl caveats may apply ofc - e.g. definitely get far away from an abusive relationship and if need be enter witness protection type of scenarios, but here we are talking more casual circumstances.