I saw that other post about worst dates and honestly can’t relate since I’ve never dated anyone, I just wanted to know if I was the only one here. That’s it, you don’t have to go deeper if you don’t want to

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    Emotionally abused as a child, strong fear of letting my guard down, worried that people hate me, convinced that I have nothing to offer.

    I’m not perfect, but realistically I know that I could definitely find someone if I put myself out there.

    I’ve been on a few dates from dating apps, but just have my guard up so much it’s difficult to make a connection.

    Never asked someone out in person as I don’t put myself in those sort of situations. I was actually out at a club last night (one of the few times in my life) and I left early, so quite disappointed in myself today 🙁

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      Archie Gates: You’re scared, right?

      Conrad Vig: Maybe.

      Archie Gates: The way it works is, you do the thing you’re scared shitless of, and you get the courage AFTER you do it, not before you do it.

      Conrad Vig: That’s a dumbass way to work. It should be the other way around.

      Archie Gates: I know. That’s the way it works.

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        That’s good advice, I’ve actually worked that bit out and that’s how I managed to have a few dates.

        Also why I’m annoyed at myself for bottling it and heading home early last night.

        I’ll keep on tho :)

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          You at least did something for a while, I’m still at step 0 and don’t see that changing anymore, especially at my age.