I know. My child had a terrible time* of it, during their school years. And I’m slowly* becoming more aware, because I’ve almost no filter and blurt out whatever crosses my mind. I’m addressing it, but reversion sneaks up on me. I just have to keep working at that, and way too often, missing what seems obvious to others or very belatedly.
While I agree that we should avoid bullying rather than just avoiding bullying specific groups, this might go too far. We should just make a whitelist of people who you can bully, like Republicans or people who watch reality television.
No. It may feel good in the moment, but doesn’t change anything. It just reinforces their belief that the world is out to get them and makes us hypocrites, or if done regularly enough, turns is into the beast we would destroy as e also feel bad about our behavior and ignore those feelings long enough (they’re there for a reason). And sure, there will be momentary lapses and negative feelings we didn’t know what to do with them. That’s when it’s time to face our shadows, again, and do the work. It took me a half a century to get there, but I’ve begun trying. I hope you will join me. It’s an individual work, but we can support each other, if you’re game.
Maybe we should raise our standard to “don’t bully.”
Sadly we love hierarchy dominance just about as much as we hate how much it makes us look like apes.
Teachers and school administrators almost always side with bullies. They can’t help themselves.
I know. My child had a terrible time* of it, during their school years. And I’m slowly* becoming more aware, because I’ve almost no filter and blurt out whatever crosses my mind. I’m addressing it, but reversion sneaks up on me. I just have to keep working at that, and way too often, missing what seems obvious to others or very belatedly.
*Yay autocorrect
What have you got against apes, ya damn dirty hominid?
they are not efficient enough in warfare
They are
While I agree that we should avoid bullying rather than just avoiding bullying specific groups, this might go too far. We should just make a whitelist of people who you can bully, like Republicans or people who watch reality television.
No. It may feel good in the moment, but doesn’t change anything. It just reinforces their belief that the world is out to get them and makes us hypocrites, or if done regularly enough, turns is into the beast we would destroy as e also feel bad about our behavior and ignore those feelings long enough (they’re there for a reason). And sure, there will be momentary lapses and negative feelings we didn’t know what to do with them. That’s when it’s time to face our shadows, again, and do the work. It took me a half a century to get there, but I’ve begun trying. I hope you will join me. It’s an individual work, but we can support each other, if you’re game.
and reddit user
And lemmy user for good measure
If we’re going here…
Whitelist isn’t the preferred nomenclature. Use terms like allow-list or permit-list.
So now what do we call the opposite list?
Usually a deny-list or a block-list.
These are the inclusive terms that are getting adopted in IT, at least, and they usually work in that context. Maybe not for everything.
So what the heck are we calling “Grey-hats” now?
Edit: not to mention the other two hat terms
At my company, white hat hackers are to be called “offensive security researchers”. Black hat hackers are to be called “attackers”.