I hate the whole concept of references. I don’t want to ask a favor from someone in my past. I don’t want to keep contact info for former bosses or co-workers.
Our society is like:
Pull yourselves up by your bootstraps.
Have personal responsibility.
Your success or your failure is 100% due to your good or poor choices.
Employers: “By the way, you are going to need help from some strangers in your past in order to get a job with our company.”
Companies are constantly trying to figure out how to pay workers less. I would absolutely take less money if the hiring process didn’t have so much hoop-jumping. How has capitalism not figured that one out yet?
As a reference I try to provide examples of when the person was challenged and overcame it, along with the good stuff. I’m not going to say they’re bad employee, they’re asking me for help getting a job. Why would I turn around and say they’re not good?
Im just happy if my bro is willing to lie for me.
They don’t even need to lie. If you came in and did your job that’s all that needs to be said. You don’t need to go into details. Simply saying “Id hire them again” is all the new job wants to hear.
I get what you’re saying though
Because sometimes you know that you can’t in good conscience inflict that person upon an unsuspecting employer
Then I wouldn’t agree to be that person’s reference.