Ok so you’re a specific edge case and the fact that you wouldn’t help them is related to your geographical situations. In most families living the same thing you do, just being able to talk to each other is a form of support that people without kids don’t have when they get older.
“So they will be there to support me in my old age,” is such a selfish reason for having a child, and an imposition of burden on people who are not trained for it and should never have to bear it. I say that as someone who was basically forced into a situation where I had to provide palliative care for an older relative because of that familial expectation and the recklessly poor planning on their part to prevent the burden on their kids/grandkids.
It’s just something that naturally happens with most families and I never said it’s the reason why people have kids, I said it’s one advantage about having kids vs not having them. In the majority of cases it’s not an obligation people feel and I’m sorry if you had to have it imposed on you, but you can’t use your anecdote to make a general opinion.
You’re in the right here. These people are selfish ingrates who have no family values, and no appreciation for the gift of life and sunk cost of those before them so that they could have success. We all stand on the shoulders of giants.
I love my mom with all my heart and hope I am successful enough to give her back all the care she gave to me out of GRATITUDE, not obligation.
Ok so you’re a specific edge case and the fact that you wouldn’t help them is related to your geographical situations. In most families living the same thing you do, just being able to talk to each other is a form of support that people without kids don’t have when they get older.
“So they will be there to support me in my old age,” is such a selfish reason for having a child, and an imposition of burden on people who are not trained for it and should never have to bear it. I say that as someone who was basically forced into a situation where I had to provide palliative care for an older relative because of that familial expectation and the recklessly poor planning on their part to prevent the burden on their kids/grandkids.
Holy crap you guys…
It’s just something that naturally happens with most families and I never said it’s the reason why people have kids, I said it’s one advantage about having kids vs not having them. In the majority of cases it’s not an obligation people feel and I’m sorry if you had to have it imposed on you, but you can’t use your anecdote to make a general opinion.
You’re in the right here. These people are selfish ingrates who have no family values, and no appreciation for the gift of life and sunk cost of those before them so that they could have success. We all stand on the shoulders of giants.
I love my mom with all my heart and hope I am successful enough to give her back all the care she gave to me out of GRATITUDE, not obligation.